In the previous chapter, we looked at the wealth of connotations that women's underwear holds for the average man - far more than you might appreciate from the rather different perspective of wearing it yourself on a daily basis. We discussed how a man donning lingerie, whether with enthusiasm or more reluctantly, finds himself inexorably influenced by the profoundly feminine associations such garments are imbued with, and how this in turn affects both his attitude and his behaviour - in a distinctly positive manner! Finally, we illustrated a number of ways in which this phenomenon can be used to the benefit of a loving relationship, both in the bedroom and beyond. We'll be exploring the practical details of exactly how you can achieve such results yourself in the subsequent chapters of this book.
For now, however, it's worth taking a moment to consider exactly what we're talking about here. In truth, there are actually several interrelated aspects of having a man wear lingerie, which can be broadly divided into three main categories depending on whether the principal effect of his attire is one of arousal, atonement or acquiescence. Although all three may be present to a greater or lesser extent, precisely how you go about putting your husband in panties affects which takes precedence, channelling the feminine forces involved down different directions depending on the desired outcome. Whether you have him wear women's underwear to turn him on, to punish him for letting you down, or simply to instil more general discipline, the same fundamental principles are involved throughout, however much their effects may differ - just as the lingerie he wears can vary from a skimpy thong to a heavily boned basque, yet retain its unique femininity and power over the man wearing it.
Firstly, there is what we'll be referring to as erotic feminization - having your husband wear sexy lingerie in an intimate context in order to spice up your lovemaking. Here, the emphasis is placed on the sexual aspects of such underwear, taking the inherent arousal a man instinctively feels at the sight of lingerie on a lady and reflecting it back upon himself. Clad only in feminine attire, and with an enthusiastic partner encouraging him to be as naughty as the outfit she's dressed him in, it's hard for a man not to feel sexy and turned on in such a situation - to the benefit of both parties! Of course, having your husband wear lingerie also has the side effect of engendering a more submissive attitude in him, which can just as easily be turned to your advantage, not least in the form of extended foreplay and an increased openness to other sexual experimentation.
Secondly, making your husband wear women's underwear may be used as a means for him to atone for previous misdemeanours, with the threat of having to do so again acting as a deterrent against him misbehaving in future. The discomfort, both physical and psychological, of having to wear such feminine attire takes centre stage here, with any erotic aspects being overwhelmed by feelings of embarrassment, awkwardness and shame. If he is expected to wear a bra and panties in public, there is the additional anxiety about being caught in such a humiliating predicament, however vanishingly small the chances of discovery may actually be. Even in private, the unfamiliar tactile sensations of such underwear can be quite sufficient to teach him a lesson, especially if the garments in question are chosen with the deliberate aim of being uncomfortable and awkward. We'll be calling this practice lingerie punishment henceforth.
Finally, lingerie may be worn by a man on a more regular basis as a symbol of submission to his wife. Once again, the erotic aspects of such clothing take a secondary place for the most part, but this time there's no sense of him having to atone for anything by wearing it, nor that he's being punished when he does so. Nevertheless, a man wearing lingerie for this purpose is constantly aware of his intimate attire, which serves to keep in line as he goes about his daily business. It exerts its influence in the form of an ever present reminder of why he is wearing such clothing, encouraging him to behave himself and respect his wife - even in her absence! As such, this practice is known as lingerie discipline or lingerie training, although the terms used may also reflect the particular garment used to teach a man self-control, for example bra discipline or panty training.
Of course, you don't have to adopt all of these techniques, nor need you restrict yourself to just one of them - as we'll reiterate throughout the course of this book, you're free to pick and choose whatever works for you. In practice, the boundaries between them tend to blur into one another - a man who has to wear panties to work as a punishment may find himself appreciating them more in the bedroom that evening. Equally, a couple who begin fooling around with lingerie as nothing more than a sexy game may discover it develops into something rather more serious over time - perhaps with the man having separate playtime and punishment attire, each conveying a quite different meaning. As we'll see later, even a man who actively enjoys wearing women's underwear is not immune to its corrective effects when employed for lingerie discipline or chastisement, but the latter need not spoil the pleasure he derives from it on other occasions. Regardless of the situation, lingerie leaves the woman in control, allowing her to take proceedings in the direction she sees fit.
 Rather confusingly, such treatment is sometimes referred to elsewhere as petticoat punishment or petticoating, with a man subject to it said to be petticoated, even though actual petticoats are rarely involved. Sadly, much of what is written in association with such phrases must be taken with a healthy pinch of salt, being grounded more in fantasy than reality - using the term lingerie punishment here helps to draw a clear distinction between the practical and the implausible.
If you're never really considered the possibility of dressing your husband up in women's underwear before, you may still be wondering what's in it for you and your relationship. Although the practical benefits of erotic feminization and lingerie discipline are self-evident to anyone who has been practising them for any length of time, it can be difficult to fully appreciate just how much of an effect such techniques can have on your husband until you've tried them for yourself. Imagine:
It's worth remembering that such benefits are far from being one sided. Although a man who dons lingerie at the behest of his wife may initially be rather sceptical about the advantages of doing so, over time he too is sure to appreciate the effects that such attire has - both on his relationship with his wife, but also on himself as a person. It would be a rare man who would say no to having more fun in the bedroom, but as we shall see later, many men would also sorely welcome the opportunity to develop greater willpower, divest themselves of less appealing habits and improve themselves in the process - all things that can be achieved through wearing lingerie so long as a man can be persuaded to keep an open mind about its possibilities.
Is there anything else, be it clothing or otherwise, that is capable of achieving such diverse benefits as those we've just been discussing? It's hard to imagine that anything could possibly compete with lingerie whilst still remaining as gentle and loving, yet women's underwear is just that - no more than delicate bundles of lace and nylon, satin and silk, yet having the power to transform a man merely by dressing him up in it. Let's take a moment to summarise just what it is that makes lingerie so effective when used in this way.
All these factors come together, reinforcing one another to give lingerie its unique power. The unfamiliar sensations of women's underwear keep reminding the wearer of its intimate presence, which in turn reiterates the reasons as to why a man is wearing it, bringing about the manifold benefits we listed earlier. It really is the stuff of dreams - simple, gentle and yet exquisitely effective.
If this all sounds too good to be true at first glance, or you find yourself wondering whether such benefits are really that easy to achieve in practice, you wouldn't be alone. Many women quite understandably have reservations about putting their husbands in lingerie, especially when they've only just been introduced to the idea themselves. It's certainly not uncommon to have doubts about whether such techniques are right for you and your relationship - you may worry about unforeseen consequences or drawbacks, or merely feel an instinctive uneasiness about having your husband wear underwear apparently more appropriate for yourself. You may wonder how he'll react to the idea, or be concerned about the risk and repercussions of his secret being discovered by other people - hardly unreasonable fears, especially when they're about a man you love.
Such reactions are perfectly natural, but that doesn't mean you should dismiss the rest of this book out of hand. It takes time to fully appreciate all that can be achieved with erotic feminization and lingerie discipline, even once you begin employing such techniques for yourself. Indeed, as we'll discuss later, it's better to adopt a slow, gradual progression rather than jumping in at the deep end immediately. That means that you can, and indeed, should take all the time you need to mull things over before experimenting a little to discover what works for you. You may find that an idea that initially seems a little unusual, if not somewhat strange, begins to grow on you as you get your head around its manifold implications and possibilities. For now, read on - you'll be sure to thank yourself for doing so later!
In the previous chapter, we discussed how the connotations that particular kinds of clothing are imbued with can influence not only their wearer, but also those around them. Such unconscious associations extend far further than one might imagine however, going so far as to affect the way we all perceive and interpret situations, ideas and even words. If your initial reaction to the mention of men wearing lingerie was to picture a stereotypical drag queen, effeminate pantywaist or mincing transvestite, perhaps hanging around a seedy gay bar with other dodgy looking homosexuals, the chances are your assumptions have been shaped by pervading societal prejudices about such matters. It takes a certain degree of self-awareness to appreciate this and recognise that erotic feminization and lingerie discipline can be whatever you make of them, rather than having to conform to any existing preconceptions.
With that in mind, let's look at some of the common misconceptions you may have regarding men wearing lingerie - a topic that most women are unlikely to have given much thought to in the absence of prior experience with the matter. In doing so, we'll explode the myth that there is anything wrong or perverse about putting a man in panties, and hopefully set your mind at rest regarding any doubts you may have about employing erotic feminization and lingerie discipline to the benefit of your own relationship.
For starters, gay men come in all shapes and sizes, just like straight ones. Admittedly, some may be more effeminate or camp than others, but on the whole they do not seek to emulate women, especially not in the underwear department! Moreover, although some crossdressers are indeed homosexual, studies show that the vast majority are as straight as any other man. Not only is that true for men who actively pursue women's clothing in order to feel feminine, it's doubly so for those persuaded into such attire by their wives as part of a loving, heterosexual relationship. As we shall see later, although wearing lingerie allows a man to adopt a more submissive role in the bedroom, it doesn't fundamentally affect his intimate desires - whatever sexual proclivities he ordinarily tends towards will remain even when he's all dolled up in the prettiest of outfits. The only exception to this is where doing so allows him to express ordinarily repressed aspects of his sexual desires, but these will have been there all along rather than caused by his clothing.
Assuming that a man wears women's underwear in order to attract other men is as nonsensical as assuming the same about a woman - it ignores the wealth of other reasons why anyone, male or female, might don such clothing. It can hardly be said that the primary purpose of a practical sports bra is to appeal to the opposite sex, after all - the support it provides during exercise is of far more significance to the wearer. Similarly, a woman might choose to wear a pair of pretty panties simply to feel good about herself beneath otherwise drab office attire, or clad her legs in sheer nylon out of modesty, for warmth, or simply to conform to a dress code. It shouldn't be too much of a stretch of the imagination to see how a man might wear lingerie for a range of other reasons too - to make him feel feminine, to atone for misbehaviour, to symbolise his submission or simply because he likes the feel of soft satin and silk, none of which need be remotely associated with his sexuality.
If you married your husband for his manly charms, you'll be relieved to hear that such a scenario is most unlikely unless your husband already has strong desires in that direction, something that almost certainly wouldn't have gone unnoticed if such a remote possibility were indeed the case. Even in the case of erotic feminization, where the emphasis is placed on the sensual aspects of the garments in question, his lingerie is nothing more than an adjunct to the main event - the icing on the cake, if you like, but far too sweet to enjoy as a staple food. When it comes to employing women's underwear as a means of discipline, there are even less grounds for concern - associating feminine clothing with being punished or submitting to your control makes it extremely unlikely that he'll develop a desire to wear it under other circumstances.
We'll be discussing crossdressers in more detail in a later chapter, but for now it's worth stating that there's a world of difference between transvestites and transsexuals, however similar the words themselves might be - the latter going far further in their pursuit of femininity than the former. Although we speak of erotic feminization and feminized men throughout the course of this book, we do so only as a convenient shorthand for the practices discussed here. There's certainly no need for your husband to have any kind of surgery or take hormones for you to enjoy the benefits of putting him panties, nor would we ever advocate him doing so. Gender reassignment is a serious, life changing decision that those considering it often spend many years agonising over - a completely different matter from wearing panties or a bra, even regularly. Rest assured that your husband can wear whatever you'd like him to and still remain all man - no amount of lingerie can change his physical nature.
Even if that were the case, lingerie discipline would still be a very powerful technique - a man who found such sexy attire singularly unarousing, as might be well be the case for purely practical garments, would nevertheless find that donning women's underwear engendered a submissive state of mind merely by being expected to wear it. Most men, however, are far from immune to the erotic connotations of such intimate garments, instinctively aroused by the wealth of associations they unconsciously attach to them - especially when presented in a sexually charged context. When his sexy wife seductively suggests her husband slips into a pair of panties to heighten the mood, he may well find he becomes aroused in spite of himself - even though, unlike a crossdresser, he wouldn't regard donning such feminine underwear as anywhere near as appealing under other, more mundane circumstances.
Although you may be no match for his physical prowess, that doesn't mean you have to accept defeat when it comes to what he wears without even trying to put him in panties. As we've already touched on, most men can be persuaded into donning women's underwear as part of a sexy game in the bedroom, and it's all downhill from then on. Once a man's worn lingerie once, however briefly and in whatever circumstances, it becomes easier to encourage him to do so again, and even easier the next time, until stepping into a pair of panties or a bra is second nature to him. With the aid of a few simple tips and tricks we'll be discussing later in this book, it's far more straightforward than you might think to extend his intimate apparel into other aspects of his life - even if he might have forthrightly opposed the idea were it presented from scratch.
Moreover, thanks to the subduing influence that lingerie has on a man, once he's safely strapped in and wrapped up in the calming layers of lace and satin, he's more likely to stay that way than you might think. Provided you can get him past the initial urge to immediately divest himself of such embarrassing attire, the submissive state of mind it engenders makes it difficult for a man to go back on his previous acquiescence, especially if you emphasise that this will displease you. Wearing lingerie for you reinforces itself, creating a virtuous circle whereby the more he does so, the less likely he is to even consider refusing - and getting past the initial teething period is easy if you take things slowly. Even a crafty husband will find himself complying when he realises that there are ways of making sure he remains in what his wife wants him to wear - as we'll see later, surreptitiously taking off his bra and panties on the way to the office is easily avoided with a simple stitch or two.
We're certainly not advocating that you estrange your husband, but thankfully there's absolutely no need to do so in order to enjoy the benefits of putting him in panties. Few men are likely to object to a spicier time in the bedroom, but even when they're wearing lingerie in less erotic circumstances, they soon come to appreciate the advantages it brings. Although the practicalities of having to wear a bra or stockings may require some getting used to, it doesn't take long for a man to recognise the profound effects that such garments have on him and his relationship with his wife. Even when he's being made to do so as a punishment, it's perfectly possible for a man to accept such short term discomfort in exchange for the greater good it brings - after all, many men do so day in, day out when they go to work in order to bring home a salary.
Contrary to what you might imagine if you've ever had to deal with an inconsiderate husband who is apparently oblivious to the effects his selfish behaviour has on those around him, many men are all too aware of their bad habits, not to mention the liberties they take in their marriage. Secretly they despise the weakness of will that prevents them from doing anything to resolve such issues, longing to have the kind of self-control that would keep them from feeling as though they have let themselves and others down. It's often hard for a man to go the extra mile, especially after a long day at work, with the easy way out proving all too tempting - however much he may regret his shortsighted actions later. If only someone else would take control of such matters for him and provide him with the willpower he lacks!
If the cost of recovering such missing motivation is nothing more than having to wear frilly underwear, many men would regard doing so as a small price to pay for the vast improvement it can bring in their sense of self worth - even if that means submitting to the occasional punishment or accepting lingerie as part of their regular wardrobe. While being made to wear a corset or a tight punishment bra is never going to be pleasant for the man trapped within its wicked embrace, such uncomfortable chastisement is sure to serve as a deterrent against any future misbehaviour. If the threat of having to suffer similar treatment is sufficient to make him think twice next time, it will have served its purpose, however unpleasant the experience may be at the time. Far from hating you for imposing such discipline upon him, once your husband sees its results he'll end up thanking you!
Although erotic feminization and lingerie discipline can be used to encourage the more submissive aspects of a man's personality, they do so in areas where such changes are most beneficial - softening his rough edges, and making him kinder and more considerate - rather than changing anything fundamental to his masculinity. Sure, it may encourage him to engage in prolonged foreplay or make him more amenable to helping out around the house, but it won't take away his virility, his drive or his desire to protect you. Indeed, the great thing about putting him in panties is that you can just have him take them off whenever you want him to be all man - there's nothing permanent or irreversible about what he wears, which can work just as well occasionally as on a more regular basis.
In a way, the instinctive derision that most women feel towards men wearing their kind of underwear is one of the factors that makes lingerie discipline so powerful. Because it's rare for a woman to find the thought of a random man in a bra and panties particularly appealing, most women simply aren't going to be interested in your husband should they discover that his wife makes him wear lingerie - at least, not in any way he'll appreciate! While a feminized man is sure to be the cause of much amusement, he's unlikely to prove sexually attractive to the kind of women he might otherwise be tempted by - which makes putting your husband in lingerie an ideal method of keeping him from straying.
Despite this, many women find that something rather surprising occurs when it's their own husband doing the dressing up rather than just some random man. While they might well be repulsed by the sight of anyone else wearing similar attire, there's something unexpectedly romantic about their husband placing himself in such a vulnerable position, even if you're unable to resist the odd chuckle at his expense! It's not so much a case of what he's wearing as why he's doing so, proving his commitment to you and your relationship even at the risk of attracting scorn and ridicule - hardly something he would do for any other woman. Moreover, in the intimacy of the bedroom, there's a certain cuteness to a man's submissive side that's enhanced by pretty lingerie, such that you may find he doesn't look half as bad as you might fear. Indeed, he may look positively yummy - and that's before you consider what kind of difference such attire can make to a man's bedroom behaviour. It's something you'll never know until you give it a go yourself, so don't let ill-founded assumptions stop you.
If you happen to search online for information about putting your husband in panties, the situation is even worse. As well as being greeted by countless exhibitionists wanting to show off their intimate attire in various states of arousal, you'll also come across the most lurid stories purporting to describe what such men get up to in private - inevitably involving sadistic humiliation, forced feminization and other more sordid activities. It's all a far cry from the intimacy of a loving relationship and it would be easy to conclude that erotic feminization and lingerie discipline must be as unwholesome as some of the other practices one reads about on the Internet. Sadly, this phenomenon is by no means restricted to men wearing women's underwear - practically any other area of human sexuality is similarly encumbered with just as unlikely tales, concocted by sad fantasists with no practical experience of what they write.
Throughout this book, we'll stress that lingerie discipline and erotic feminization are nothing more than what you decide to make of them - there's no prescribed plan, merely a set of techniques to pick and choose from, allowing you to employ whichever works for you. Terrorists may use maps to plan their atrocities and bank robbers may drive cars to make a swift getaway, but that doesn't mean you can't use both to enjoy a day trip to the sea without being a hardened criminal. Likewise, regardless of what perverts and weirdos might get up to, you're free to use lingerie however you wish without any kind of guilt - whether that's fooling around a little in the bedroom, or making your husband wear panties more regularly. So long as your relationship benefits from the undoubted effects of having him wear such intimate attire, it's all good.
Ironically, this fear of public ridicule is part of what makes lingerie discipline so effective - knowing how his secretary will react to discovering that his wife makes him wear panties makes a man most unlikely to want to try anything untoward with her. No matter how anxious your husband may be about others finding out about his embarrassing attire, however, there's actually no reason why anyone else need ever realise what's under his suit. That's if you choose to have him wear lingerie out and about, of course - putting him in panties works just as well around the house, where nobody need ever know what the two of you get up to behind closed doors. Your husband certainly doesn't have to go to work all dressed up, least of all to begin with, nor wear his frillies anywhere else in public until you're happy he can do so safely.
Although many younger women show a flagrant disregard for their modesty these days, flaunting their bra straps and whale tails almost as a fashion statement beneath strappy tops and low cut jeans, it's perfectly possible for a woman to keep her underwear so well hidden that no-one ever notices it. The same goes for lingerie wearing men too, provided they exercise a little common sense and discretion. Obviously, a fully stuffed bra under a thin, tight top is going to attract a lot of unwanted attention, but the unpadded variety can easily go unnoticed under an extra layer, whereas even the most risqué of panties can be kept from sight with the right trousers and a good belt. Throughout the course of this book, we'll be sharing tips and tricks that mean a man can wear all the lingerie a woman does, and more, without anyone ever batting an eyelid - even the most observant of watchers. Moreover, an anonymous shopping trip provides the perfect venue for making sure your husband can pull it off without needing to risk anything in the way of reputation - however you choose to dress him.
It's easy to be aware of what you already know is there, but far harder to spot something completely unexpected. For the most part, the subtle bumps of bra strap adjusters simply aren't the kind of thing that many people look for on a man's back, nor do they check his ankles to see if he's wearing women's hosiery, let alone go out of their way to search out the faintest of panty lines - and even these tell-tale signs are easily avoided. Because, for the most part, people only see what they expect to see and lingerie really isn't expected on a man, your husband's intimate attire is going to remain perfectly invisible unless it's unmistakably obvious, however much he might fear he is broadcasting it to the world. Once you actively start looking for them, you may discover you know more lingerie wearing men than you might think, but with a little care and attention to detail, no-one else need ever know that your husband is one of them except the two of you.
Ironically, it's not just women who exhibit such qualms. Sadly, a minority of transvestites and transsexuals are also of the opinion that they should have some kind of exclusive monopoly over wearing feminine underwear when not born a woman. The thought that others might wear such garments is somehow regarded by them as an affront to their own gender identities - apparently, a man can only wear lingerie to express his feminine side if he does so for exactly the same reasons they do. Heaven forbid that he should put on panties for any other purpose, let alone for something as frivolous as sexual pleasure! The hypocrisy of such a position ought to be self-evident - the very people who ought to know a thing or two about tolerance, often having fought for the right to wear such clothing themselves against societal prejudice, in turn attempt to deny others that privilege. Thankfully, the vast majority are rather more enlightened.
Of course, it is not the garments themselves that are the problem, but rather the use they are put to. A woman can wear a pretty bra and panties under her working attire without anyone raising objections, her underwear helping her to feel good about herself as well as serving a more practical purpose. Were she expected to serve as a barmaid in nothing but such lingerie, however, feminists would be outraged by the message her underwear sent, even if the garments in question were identical. Nevertheless, although such indecent attire would be sure to inflame the base passions of the bar's patrons, that doesn't mean there would be anything wrong with a woman choosing to similarly arouse her husband by being identically dressed in the bedroom. Unlike the drunken barflies, he understands there's far more to his wife than just her physical charms, however appealing they may be, and is unlikely to draw the wrong kind of conclusions about her, let alone women in general, as a result.
The same is true if it's the man who wears sexy underwear as part of a loving relationship - all the more so, in fact, thanks to lingerie discipline's unique power to educate him about such feminine matters. It's hard for a man to regard a woman's breasts as there for nothing more than his titillation when he's experienced first-hand the difficulties of wearing a heavily padded bra, for instance, or to grumble about his wife choosing sensible clothing over more sensual attire when he knows full well just how uncomfortable the latter can be. That's by no means limited to the trials and tribulations of womanhood, however - the fun of dressing up and fooling around in frillies gives erotic feminization a learning quality of its very own. A man who wears lingerie gains a new respect for all things womanly thanks to being in greater touch with his feminine side - however enjoyable such an education may be!
However cute your husband looks in his lingerie, you can rest assured he won't look anywhere near as attractive as you do in yours, lacking as he does the feminine physique to fully make the most of such underwear. Although putting him in panties and a bra may soften the edges of his male nature, not least his attitude and behaviour, he'll still be undeniably masculine underneath, with all his usual appeal - albeit in a rather different wrapping! Moreover, your husband is likely to think even more of you as a woman once he understands the power of the feminine from such a first-hand perspective, with even the fanciest of outfits only serving to give him a pale imitation of your natural, intrinsic womanly beauty. You'll still retain your unique place in your relationship, however much your husband's role may take on new aspects - besides, it's unlikely you'll want to compete too much with him when it comes to doing some of the household chores!
Despite what the term might initially suggest, discipline is far from being a bad thing. Few would look down on a soldier, an elite athlete or even a monk for being disciplined, rigorously sticking to a training regime in order to excel where it really matters, even at the cost of some short term sacrifices. Even punishment has its place as a means of atonement, allowing a man to say sorry for letting his wife down in a way that means something to both of them, rather than just being empty words. As well as providing a means to release upset and hurt in a constructive manner rather than bottling it up until it reaches explosive proportions, such caring correction acts as a deterrent against future transgressions, gently guiding a man's behaviour in a direction sure to benefit both him and his wife. It's certainly a far cry from meting out pain indiscriminately, simply to humiliate or abuse a man for the sake of it.
Given that, it's just as well there's absolutely no need for him to wear any of your underwear in order to enjoy erotic feminization and lingerie discipline - not when it's so easy for him to have his own. It's perfectly straightforward to pick up something in a size more suited to his masculine build without any more trouble on your part than a detour in the department store. You definitely don't need to spend a lot of money in order to kit him out with a few frillies for himself - many supermarkets sell cheap and cheerful lingerie that's perfect for playing around with until you're more sure of what you want. Of course, that doesn't mean you can't treat yourself to something nice yourself too - matching his and hers lingerie is incredibly effective in the bedroom, with him wearing his and you wearing yours.
It would be unfortunate if, after flipping through this book, you were left with the impression that you had to do everything it suggests in order to appreciate any benefit from erotic feminization and lingerie discipline, and thus be discouraged from trying anything as a result. That's certainly not the intention of this work - instead, the aim is to present a range of ideas that you're free to pick and choose from, allowing you to adopt only those that work for your particular situation. Some couples find that their lives are greatly enriched by employing the full spectrum of techniques discussed here, but many others enjoy the benefits of just one or two of the ideas we'll be presenting - whether only occasionally or far more regularly. Think of this book as a buffet that aims to cater for all tastes - you can sample whatever takes your fancy, but if something doesn't appeal, there's no reason why you have to stick with it. This is something that can't be stressed enough - erotic feminization and lingerie discipline are about what works for you and your husband - they're what you make of them, and you can take or leave whatever you want.
It would be easy to feel bogged down after reading such an exhaustive list, especially if you share some of the concerns we've been discussing, but the easiest way to see through them is simply to give things a try for yourself. Once you've seen the powerful effect that erotic feminization and lingerie discipline can have on your own relationship, you'll recognise such trifling worries for what they are and be glad you didn't let them stop you. Even women who have been practising such techniques for years will tell you that they too were once unsure about whether this could actually work for them - it's a natural response to anything new, especially where other people are involved.
Like all novel ideas, it's worth taking a little time to get your head around what's involved. You may find it helpful to go back and reread this chapter, or simply to come back to it afresh after a couple of days. You'll find that the more you think these things over, the more they start to click into place - what might have seemed a little bizarre to begin with soon becomes quite commonplace once you get to grips with it. The most important thing is not to be afraid of giving things a go and seeing where they take you. As we'll find in the next chapter, you don't have to commit yourself to anything irrevocable by doing so, but you may be pleasantly surprised by the results! Why not try for yourself and see just what erotic feminization and lingerie discipline can do for you and your relationship?