put him in panties

Chapter 5: Lingerie Punishment

As we saw in the last chapter, having a man wear women's underwear can be a highly effective way of moderating his attitude and behaviour when employed for the purposes of lingerie discipline, but there's also a second, more forceful way in which it can be used to such ends. Lingerie punishment involves having your husband wear such feminine attire in order to atone for letting you down, emphasising its uncomfortable aspects, both psychological and physical, to make wearing it serve as a penance for previous misdemeanours. In doing so, it discourages further occurrences of such behaviour, as well as providing an outlet for any guilt your husband may harbour, helping you both to feel that the score has been settled as far as you and your relationship are concerned.

Lingerie punishment is distinct from lingerie discipline in that the man subject to it must wear women's underwear as a consequence of having done his wife wrong, as opposed to it being simply a symbol of his submission to her. Wearing lingerie for the purposes of discipline is something that a man can do day in and day out without any discomfort beyond an acute awareness of his intimate attire, whereas lingerie punishment is an intentionally unpleasant experience for the man subject to it - one deliberately designed to discourage him from doing anything that might warrant it again! Nevertheless, although your husband is unlikely to enjoy being punished at the time, he's sure to appreciate its results in the long run - like lingerie discipline, lingerie punishment can work wonders for his attitude in all aspects of life.

Despite this, many women initially feel rather uneasy about the prospect of punishing the man they love. It's perfectly natural to have misgivings about something that, on the face of it, feels as though it should have no place in a loving, caring relationship. Although talk of administering punishment may bring to mind the image of a cruel dominatrix inflicting pain and brutality upon her grovelling slave without any concern for his well-being, this is actually the antithesis of what lingerie punishment is about. It certainly doesn't involve wantonly humiliating or abusing your husband, something which could never be condoned in a loving relationship. Instead, lingerie punishment focuses on appropriate correction as and where necessary - just as one might chastise a badly behaved child or discipline a disobedient dog, but in a more mature, adult manner, retaining the distinctly feminine essence of lingerie.

Sadly, few subjects are as rife with confusion as that of men being punished by their wives, especially when such chastisement takes place in an erotic context. Many so called punishments are actually rather pleasurable affairs, with both the sexually submissive husband and his dominant wife delighting in playing such games together, perhaps roleplaying as mistress and slave. Like erotic feminization, such playful punishments allow those involved to explore other aspects of their personalities in a safe, loving environment. However much a spanking may hurt physically, there's nothing hateful about it - indeed, there would be something very wrong if that were its intent. You may already enjoy similar activities as part of your lovemaking, but equally they may not appeal to you or your husband - either way, lingerie punishment is different in that it isn't intended to be pleasurable for the recipient.

Sadly, the erotic aspects of submitting to punishment mean that if you happen to look online, you'll find all manner of tall tales featuring impossibly cruel punishments being meted out to men who seem only too happy to tell the world how harshly they're treated for even the most minor of infractions. It's best to take such stories with a healthy pinch of salt, not least because most of them are intended more as masturbatory material than instructional guides. A moment's critical analysis often reveals such accounts as the fantasies they really are, grounded more in the lascivious imaginations of their authors than any kind of reality. Even if there may be an element of truth to some of them, there's no reason why you have to emulate them - as with erotic feminization and lingerie discipline, lingerie punishment is about what works for you and your relationship - not anybody else's!

What's the purpose of punishment?

If you've never really considered punishing your husband before, you might naïvely imagine the purpose of doing so would be to hurt him in retaliation for hurting you. Wanting to make the offending party feel how you're feeling is an instinctive reaction to being injured or upset by them, sharing the pain so they know first-hand how hurt you are. Indeed, you would be far from alone if you occasionally gave your husband the cold shoulder, or worse, in reprisal for feeling slighted by him. However satisfying that may seem at the time, maybe serving to sooth an inflamed temper or bruised ego, focusing solely on such negative aspects of punishment can have a profoundly detrimental effect on your relationship. That's especially the case if your husband is left in the dark about what he has done wrong, not knowing how long you intend to keep punishing him for, nor what he needs to do in order to make things up to you. It's easy to ignore such issues if you act on instinct, but it's important to address them - not least to ensure that any punishment is effective!

Making your husband wear lingerie as a punishment is fortunately far more positive than simply taking out your anger on him in the heat of the moment, let alone allowing your resentment to smoulder beneath the surface, perhaps flaring occasionally but otherwise remaining icily cold. Having to wear an uncomfortable bra or corset as a means to atone for letting you down has a ritual value quite distinct from more spontaneous, knee-jerk reactions or ill defined grumpiness, making it clear to both parties exactly what's going on and why. The unpleasant tightness around his chest lets your husband know in no uncertain terms that he's being punished for the duration he remains so attired, whilst also unambiguously signifying that his punishment is over the moment he is allowed to change clothes. He knows when he has served his time as well as when he's still serving it without ever having to ask.

Submitting to such a punishment can be quite a cathartic experience for a man, allowing him to let go of feelings of shame and guilt associated with acting selfishly or otherwise disappointing you. Moreover, placing himself in the position of vulnerability and discomfort, both psychological and physical, that comes from wearing punishment lingerie is something that is sure to bring out the most submissive aspects of a man's personality. Coupled with the desire to avoid receiving similar chastisement again, this renders him far more open to guidance and instruction as to how he should act in future than merely nagging or scolding him about his behaviour. It's hard for your husband to ignore what you're saying when his lingerie is there to continually reinforce your message.

From his perspective, lingerie punishment allows your husband to make amends for doing you wrong in a manner that leaves no room for doubt when he's being punished and when he's been forgiven, providing sufficient motivation for him to do the right thing without being excessively cruel or harsh. For your part, it offers an ideal way to moderate his behaviour without undue effort, using the power of lingerie to ensure that he is educated as to the error of his ways whilst avoiding unnecessary discord. Moreover, unlike other forms of punishment, lingerie lingers - while the impact of a scolding or the pain of a spanking will soon fade, the effects of being made to wear lingerie last as long as he stays in it without you having to do anything more. Coupled with the ease with which a man can be made to wear women's underwear for significant lengths of time, this makes it far more likely that he'll pay attention to what you're trying to teach him rather than your words falling on deaf ears.

Lingerie punishment is particularly effective when the attitude that needs correcting relates to yourself or other women. If your husband demonstrates a casual disregard for the problems we face as a result of our gender, perhaps regarding women's bodies as merely there for his entertainment, the first-hand experience of such issues he gains from being made to wear lingerie is often all it takes to correct such sexist misapprehensions. A wandering eye with a tendency to ogle other women's chests is soon corrected after a man has had a bouncing bosom of his very own to burden him, whereas complaining about how long it takes you to get dressed will be a thing of the past once your husband has had to hurriedly get into an awkward basque with fiddly suspenders as you impatiently chide him for being so slow! A little understanding of how awkward and uncomfortable some lingerie can be goes a long way to appreciating why you might not want to wear such attire, however sexy, all the time, even for him, preferring more casual comfortable choices than tight thongs and push-up bras.

Keeping things separate

Because lingerie punishment when correctly employed isn't particularly pleasant for the man submitting to it, it's important to maintain a clear distinction between using women's underwear for chastisement and putting your husband in panties for other reasons. You certainly don't want him to regard wearing any kind of lingerie in a negative light, especially if you're already enjoying the benefits of dressing him up in the bedroom. As well as being counter-productive, it's not fair on your husband to be made to feel as though he's being punished whenever he dons such intimate attire, regardless of whether he's actually done anything wrong! Not only does that undermine the effectiveness of any genuine punishment, it also runs the risk of tainting the role of lingerie in other areas of your relationship too, whether for feminization or for discipline.

Conversely, you may find that your husband becomes aroused at the thought of being punished by you, or worse, finds the punishment itself sexually exciting, especially if he's already of a submissive disposition in the bedroom. While that may have the silver lining of giving you a fun new game to play together, pretending to punish him for being a very bad boy much to your mutual delight, it doesn't achieve the desired results as far as moderating his behaviour and attitude is concerned. You may need to experiment a little until you determine which aspects of being made to wear feminine attire your husband particularly dislikes. It's vital to ensure that having to wear lingerie as a punishment isn't something he looks forward to, and unfortunately the erotic connotations of women's underwear can act to its disadvantage here - he may think you're simply playing a sexy game when actually you're deadly serious.

It's consequently essential to spell out explicitly when your husband is being punished, when you're having him wear lingerie for discipline and when you're simply fooling around, especially to begin with - however obvious you may regard the difference as being. If your husband is already used to wearing a bra in the bedroom, let alone on a more regular basis under his shirt, it may seem a natural progression to use the same one as a punishment too, perhaps simply by adding a couple of heavy water balloons and making the straps and band a little too tight, but it's important to maintain suitable psychological separation between the two - ideally by using different garments for punishment to those used for play or discipline. A dedicated punishment bra that's a size too small but with much larger cups, perhaps in a very plain, practical style, would serve this purpose admirably, as well as being far more effective as a punishment. It can be kept separate from his more regular attire, and brought out only when he's done something to warrant wearing it.

Provided you keep such things in mind, however, lingerie punishment is easily introduced to your husband once he's used to wearing women's underwear for other reasons. Although it's possible to make him wear lingerie as a punishment without ever having done so for more pleasurable purposes in the bedroom, doing so requires rather greater care in order to avoid your husband associating any future erotic feminization or lingerie discipline, let alone women's underwear in general, with the more negative aspects of being punished. Nevertheless, some women reserve having their husband wear lingerie solely for punishment purposes, which can be just as effective as doing so alongside employing such intimate attire in other ways. As always, it's entirely up to you!

What makes good punishment lingerie?

For a punishment to be at all effective, it cannot be enjoyable - otherwise, it becomes counter-productive, actively encouraging whatever it is meant to deter. Consequently, the lingerie you use to punish your husband must be sufficiently awkward, uncomfortable or otherwise problematic for him to really wish that he didn't have to wear it. It's no good putting him in a bra and panties if that simply turns him on - when it comes to punishment, his lingerie must act as a deterrent against future misbehaviour, something that arousing him is unlikely to achieve. If you've already observed the powerful effect that dressing your man up can have on your lovemaking, you may wonder how similar garments could ever have the opposite effect, but fortunately that's very straightforward.

There are two principal ways to make wearing lingerie a punishment rather than a pleasure for your husband. Firstly, you can make him wear garments that are physically awkward and uncomfortable, whether immediately or gradually becoming so over time. The crushing embrace of a tight corset is likely to be unwelcome from the very moment he's laced into it, but even an ill-fitting underwired bra or a thong that's slightly too small is sure to grate after a while. Secondly, you can make his intimate attire more uncomfortable psychologically, whether by having him wear it in a context that he's not used to, or by making his regular attire more challenging. That may simply mean having him wear his frillies out and about if he's never done so before, or making them harder to keep hidden if he's used to wearing lingerie in public, requiring his constant attention if he's to avoid discovery. Around the house, his punishment lingerie can be openly displayed to emphasise the wearer's vulnerability and submission.

Of course, there's nothing to stop you combining both factors for double the effect - perhaps taking him into town whilst wearing a tight longline bra, for instance, as part of a punitive shopping expedition, where the physical and psychological discomfort of being out and about in such restrictive attire are sure to reinforce one another. Often such effects come together of their own accord, such that a particular garment proves awkward in more ways than one. The unmistakable bust line that results from being made to wear a heavily padded bra around the house soon becomes rather uncomfortable as it pulls down on the wearer's shoulders and back, but also brings with it the nagging fear that an unexpected visitor might see his unmistakably buxom bosom. A man made to wear such a bra for the day will soon learn his lesson, as well as gaining a deeper respect for women who are similarly well endowed and the problems they face.

In terms of using lingerie to punish your husband, therefore, you may wish to:

make his lingerie too tight

Making your husband wear underwear that's a size too small is a great way of emphasising its presence, especially when the garments in question are naturally stiff and unyielding. With the exception of hosiery, practically all lingerie can be chosen so that it is too tight for comfort, resulting in an awkwardness that only deepens over time. However much your husband may try to make himself more comfortable by fiddling or fidgeting with his punishment attire, he won't be able to buy more than temporary relief from its clinging embrace. Whether it's the underwire of his bra digging into his chest or the thong of his panties bisecting his buttocks, he'll soon find himself longing to be free from such inexorable irritation - even though all he's wearing is the same kind of lingerie he might normally do, just a little too small.

Although his uncomfortable underwear will provide ample reminder of its presence all by itself, you can take the opportunity to scold him when he fusses with it, letting him know that he only has himself to blame for the predicament he finds himself in. “Stop fiddling with your bra! If you didn't want to wear it, you shouldn't have let me down like that. You did, so now you're going to have to make up for it”, you can tell him. You can also add additional punishments or extend the length of time he must spend in his punishment lingerie whenever you catch him fiddling with it. Alternatively, you can have him wear such awkward attire somewhere he really can't afford to mess with it all the time, putting him in a real pinch as his discomfort grows. He'll find himself torn between the need to keep his embarrassing underwear hidden and the desire for relief, however momentary, that would come from adjusting it. Either way, the dilemma serves to reinforce the need for self-control on his part, a valuable result quite apart from anything else.
make his lingerie more imposing

Making your husband wear a smaller size than normal is not the only way in which his lingerie can be made more imposing - the particular style you choose to put him in can make a big difference to how intrusive women's underwear is upon its wearer. For instance, as we'll see in the relevant chapter, there's a world of difference between a regular pair of panties and a G-string. While the former may not be that dissimilar to more masculine underwear, albeit a little snug around the groin, the latter is unlikely to keep his manhood in place for any length of time. Moreover, it has the added complication of a string that slides readily between the buttocks, much to the consternation of a man unfamiliar with such an intimate intrusion. With trouble on both fronts, it's something that's sure to drive him to distraction - even if he's used to wearing women's panties all the time.

Rather than have your husband wear a regular bra, you can opt for one that embraces rather more of his body - an old fashioned longline brassière is ideal for this, providing a snug fit that stretches right down to his navel. A basque offers a more modern design along similar principles, as well as supporting any stockings your husband might be wearing alongside - something you can insist upon rather than let its suspender clips go to waste. For an intermediate option, you can make him wear a bustier or simply a bra with a wider band and more hooks than he's familiar with. Conversely, a bra with a particularly thin band and straps can be equally effective if it's tightly fastened or has to support a heavy load, its focused squeeze just as impressive as the more encompassing embrace of its larger sisters when it comes to reminding your husband of its presence.

Speaking of bras, there's no finer way of making your husband's more imposing than to pad its cups, especially with something of a similar weight and size to natural breasts - however large or small! We'll be returning to this subject in a later chapter, but for now it's worth emphasising just how effective this can be as a punishment - whether you stuff his bra with just enough padding to be ambiguous in public, or give him breasts much larger than those of most women in order to fully appreciate just how awkward a huge bust can be.
make his lingerie harder to manage

We've already touched on the ease with which your husband's lingerie can be hidden from those around him, a subject we'll be returning to in more detail throughout the second half of this book. However convinced he may be that his embarrassing underwear is plain for all to see, a little care is all that's needed to ensure that no-one ever finds out about what he's wearing underneath his more manly attire. The right combination of underwear and outerwear is more than sufficient to keep anyone from discovering your husband's intimate attire, without excessive effort on his part - something that's essential in order for lingerie discipline to be effective. After all, the purpose of such discipline is not to impose an undue burden on the man you love, merely to keep him on the straight and narrow - although he may be constantly aware of his lingerie, he shouldn't need to go too far out of his way to avoid other people finding out about it. Not only would that be impractical, it would also be unfair.

It's quite a different matter when lingerie is used as a punishment, however. Depending on the circumstances, you can make your husband's underwear require his constant attention if he isn't to run the risk of discovery, or simply a little extra work on his part to keep it safely out of sight. Some bra straps are more inclined to slip than others, for example, and some hold-up stockings seem to do anything but, making them a real nightmare for a man trying to keep his hosiery hidden. In a more anonymous setting such as a shopping centre, you can arrange things such that your husband's lingerie becomes subtly visible should he move in a particular way, or even more dangerously obvious. Bending forward might reveal the bumps of his strap adjusters, a flash of stockings around his ankles, or even the waistband of his panties as it rises up above his low-hanging trousers, whereas leaning back might emphasise the enhanced bust that comes from him having to wear a slightly padded bra. Either way, all you need do is quietly let him know and your husband's fears will do the rest - encouraging him to maintain a perfect posture to avoid any chance of public ridicule, however remote such a prospect may actually be.
make him wear more - or less!

If you usually limit your husband's lingerie to just panties, you can make him wear a bra and stockings too, or up the ante still further by using more severe foundation wear for punishment purposes. A traditional corset or waist cincher is guaranteed to be extremely uncomfortable and imposing, combining practically every aspect of lingerie punishment when tightly laced. Although not something you might want to make your husband wear on a regular basis, a steel boned reduction corset nevertheless works a treat as an occasional way to punish him, its unyielding embrace completely different to his regular underwear, whilst still retaining a unique femininity. Moreover, he can wear all the lingerie he would normally alongside it - his panties and bra merely par for the course, his corset being an extra that he must suffer as a result of letting you down.

Around the house, you can have him wear rather less - indeed, you can insist he wears practically nothing at all. With nothing to hide his shame except for a skimpy pair of panties and perhaps a bra, your husband is sure to feel very vulnerable as he goes about his business, especially if you set him to work doing chores so attired. Unlike erotic feminization, the garments in question don't need to be particularly sexy to be effective - plain cotton panties and an everyday bra work just as well as something more fancy, sending a clear message that there's nothing arousing about being punished. When his lingerie is so openly displayed, it's easy to snap his bra straps or slap his exposed backside if you feel he needs a little extra motivation or reminder of his punishment, but it'll be hard for him to forget when he's so openly exposed.
make him wear lingerie somewhere new

In the previous chapter, we looked at the various times and places your husband could wear women's underwear for lingerie discipline, but there's no reason why you can't adopt some of these for the purposes of punishment too. Making him wear lingerie in such circumstances, especially those that are likely to prove stressful for other reasons, is a great way of having your husband make things up to you. By allowing himself to be put in a position of vulnerability, let alone being prepared to make a challenging situation even more demanding, he says sorry in a way you both know means something - the undeniable submission on his part demonstrating his apology far more than mere words ever could. Even having to wear panties in public can act as punishment enough for a man if he's never done so before, requiring a certain amount of courage on his part - courage that's far easier to summon when he feels obliged to do so in recompense for disappointing you.

Although you might initially extend his lingerie wearing to new situations as a punishment, doing so provides an ideal introduction to having your husband wear women's underwear more extensively. Having overcome the initial hurdle of, say, wearing panties to work as a punishment, it becomes much easier to have him do so again merely for lingerie discipline. Of course, it's vital to explain the difference to your husband such that he isn't left with the impression that he's being punished despite having done nothing wrong, or come to believe that a subsequent punishment is merely routine discipline. This might be achieved by having him wear easier, more comfortable garments than those used as punishment attire, or it may simply be enough to tell him “You wore your panties and stockings to work last time as a punishment, but today it's just to make sure you come home on time. I'll let you skip the stockings for now”. You can always add them back should he warrant being punished again, but in the meantime, your husband is well on the way to wearing panties to work regularly.
add lingerie to other punishments

As we've already demonstrated, making your husband wear lingerie can act as sufficient punishment by itself without the need for anything further, but it also makes an ideal accompaniment to other forms of chastisement. Putting your husband in panties prior to a punishment spanking makes for a great way of emphasising his submission both during and after a paddling, whether you simply spank him through his panties or pull them down around his ankles, returning them only after his cheeks are warm enough to really benefit from their snug fit. If your husband wears a male chastity device, that too can be combined with women's underwear to make its presence more burdensome, the feminine cut of his panties pulling his imprisoned package closer to his body so as to make prolonged sitting a rather uncomfortable affair. For a more severe effect, make him wear a girdle or a corselette as well.

Even something as simple as having your husband stand in the corner with his face to the wall like a naughty child is something that can be enhanced by making him wear lingerie while he does so. With nothing else to distract his attention, you can be sure that your husband will fully appreciate every last nuance of what you dress him in, especially if he's told that any fidgeting will result in further punishment. Even the slightest discomfort will soon become a torment, making an ill-fitting bra or tight thong the perfect choice for such corner time. If your husband is otherwise naked apart from his stockings and the stiletto heels he's expected to balance on, you can be sure he'll be all too aware of their presence for as long as he remains in disgrace.

As always, there's no reason why you have to employ such techniques unless you're completely happy with them, so if you'd prefer to limit your husband's punishment to merely making him wear women's underwear on occasion, that's perfectly fine - lingerie punishment is more than adequate when it comes to dealing with an errant husband! Nevertheless, if you are already comfortable with using other kinds of chastisement in your relationship, you'll find that adding appropriate lingerie can make them even more effective, not to mention providing the kind of variety that keeps a man on his toes!

Sending warning signals

Such is the power of lingerie that you don't actually have to make your husband wear women's underwear for it to have the desired effect - simply the threat of having to don such feminine attire is often sufficient to keep him in line, especially if you spell out the resulting consequences for him. You don't even need to have done something before in order for the threat of it to work wonders - just the thought will be enough, provided whatever you're proposing remains reasonably credible. Obviously, whatever you threaten must be something you're capable of carrying out should your husband call your bluff - it's no good saying he'll have to go to work in a skirt and blouse, but “Keep that up, and you'll be keeping that bra of yours on when we go out tonight” may well work a treat, even for a man who's never worn a bra outside the house. Even when said in jest, there's always the possibility that you're not joking about such matters as far as your husband is concerned - the prospect of being punished in such a way is not one he'll want to take lightly.

Even if your husband is already wearing a full complement of lingerie, you can still threaten him with making things harder if he acts up. “Do you really want to have to change into your punishment bra?”, you can ask rhetorically, fully aware of how much he hates the garment in question, “That's the way you're headed if you don't start shaping up!”. Although it's better if you can enforce it there and then, any threatened punishment doesn't have to take place immediately if it's not particularly practical to have him to change into such attire straight away - if you're out and about, you can let him know he'll be paying for it later if his behaviour doesn't improve. “Shall I put you in your corset when we get home?” is almost as effective when it comes to focusing his mind as presenting him with it on the spot - either way, he'll be sure to regret disobeying you, no matter when the consequences of doing so occur.

Alternatively, if you're out in public, you can threaten to make his lingerie more obvious to those around him. It's easy to keep an errant husband in line when the only thing keeping his bra or camisole from showing through his shirt is the jacket he's wearing on top. “Aren't you a little hot in that jacket of yours?”, you can ask with the unspoken implication that you'll take it off him if he keeps on playing up. His potential exposure doesn't have to be that great for it to act as motivation - although a painfully obvious black bra underneath a feminine blouse will guarantee your husband is putty in your hands, even the ambiguous bust line from an ever so slightly padded bra isn't something he'll want to share with the world. You don't even need to make him wear a bra for this, merely a T-shirt or top with an embarrassingly girly design.

Making the punishment fit the crime

As a general punishment, using lingerie works a treat. It doesn't matter whether your husband has returned home late after promising he'd be back on time, let his temper get the better of him or simply left the bathroom in an unfit state - spending some time wearing his punishment attire is sure to teach him the error of his ways! Nevertheless, there are certain occasions when using lingerie for correction is particularly appropriate, with the unique properties of women's underwear meaning that the punishment can be tailored to fit the crime. Although lingerie punishment is effective no matter what the offence, it really does come into its own for matters that offend the feminine, singularly fitting for lechery, chauvinism and other disrespect for women - not least yourself! You may therefore wish to make your husband wear lingerie in order:

to cure a wandering eye

It can be very disconcerting to watch your husband's gaze rest upon the feminine charms of other ladies, apparently irresistibly drawn to their busts and buttocks - especially in the case of younger women who make the most of their youthful beauty, flaunting their assets with abandon. Not only is such boorish behaviour disrespectful to you and your relationship, it also fosters the wrong impression about women's bodies in your husband, encouraging him to believe that the ladies are question have no worth beyond their superficial beauty, the feminine form mere eye candy for his casual titillation. Even if a small minority might appreciate his attention, most women could do without some random man ogling their chest or rear as they go about their business. It's far better for all concerned that you to remain the centre of his world, and making him wear lingerie is the perfect way to achieve this.

We saw in the last chapter how lingerie discipline can be employed to correct a wandering eye, but lingerie punishment also has its place, especially when your husband has flagrantly disregarded your wishes in this matter. If you know he tends to be attracted to particular aspects of other women, you can insist that he emulates them for a while to gain an appreciation of what it's really like for the ladies in question. If he's drawn to bouncing busts, making him wear a heavily padded bra is a great way of teaching him that large breasts can actually be a real nuisance for the woman forced to work around them. If he can't help himself peeking at the exposed waistlines of their panties, some time in a tight little thong will drive the point home, especially if it comes into view over his low-cut trousers every time he bends over.

If there's a particularly striking girl that catches his attention, you can even go so far as have him mimic her more closely - matching the colour and style of her bra straps, panty line and leg wear, if not more. Dressing your husband in this way makes it far easier for him to empathise with her, although he's unlikely to share the same desire for attention as she does. Decked out in similar lingerie and hosiery, you can take him out and about in order to give your husband a sense of self-consciousness, or simply stay around the house whilst providing him with appropriate reminders of his attire - perhaps even of the bawdy sexist kind that the girl he's imitating might be burdened with.
to deter him from pornography

Although pornography can have its place in a loving relationship as a means of creating an erotic atmosphere or a source of intimate ideas, too often its use is distinctly one sided, a sordid little secret partaken of by a man without any regard for his wife's feelings on the matter. When indulged in selfishly, it can cause a man to develop an unhealthy attitude towards women, not least his wife, leading him to regard them as nothing more than interchangeable sex objects, unthinking bodies there simply for satisfying his carnal needs. Needless to say, it's important to nip such an unhelpful and unrealistic attitude in the bud, before it causes any damage to your relationship.

Just as lingerie can be used to encourage respect for the women around him, it can also be used to educate your husband as to the folly of selfishly indulging in pornography, letting him know that there's much more to even a pornographic actress than her curves and cavities. He'll soon come to realise that being heavily endowed is far less fun than he might imagine when he's had to suffer a similarly enhanced chest himself, whereas buttocks bisected by minuscule thongs rapidly lose their allure when his own cheeks are so adorned. Given that the women portrayed are unlikely to have any other clothes on, it's only fitting that your husband should be similarly scantily clad for the duration of his punishment, kept vulnerable and exposed around the house with nothing to cover his shame. You can even have him act out particular aspects of the pictures he's been pleasuring himself with, not least by having him pose in similar positions or by making him tell you what it must be like to be the girls in question - either roleplaying himself into the scene, or imagining them in the real world, trying to make ends meet by doing seedy photo shoots.
to discourage sexist remarks

Male disrespect for women is sadly something that's not limited to salaciously ogling their bodies, whether leering at them in person or using pornographic pictures of them for selfish stimulation. Despite great advances in women's liberation over the last century, many men still have disturbingly antiquated opinions about what is and is not acceptable for a woman to do. Even the most modern minded of husbands can sometimes surprise his wife by coming out with uncharacteristically chauvinistic comments - often spur of the moment and ill thought out, but indicative of a disturbing underlying attitude towards women in general. He may regard women as not being good enough to compete with men on their own terms, perhaps suggesting a high profile figure got where she was solely by flaunting her feminine charms, or he may simply dismiss the problems we face in today's society, deriding the many responsibilities expected of the modern woman - contrary to what many men think, being a housewife is no walk in the park, let alone having to hold down a career as well.

While it's impossible to give your husband a complete understanding of what it's like to be a woman, it's still possible to educate him as to the error of his ways - and there's no better way to cure him of chauvinism than to make him wear feminine attire for a while. If he thinks that women have it so easy, maybe he should try walking a mile in our shoes - literally! Some time spent stumbling around on six inch stilettos is sure to bring a man back down to earth, especially if he's reminded that wearing such impractical footwear is just a small part of what many women have to contend with. Moreover, if your husband assumes the house just cleans itself, perhaps under the mistaken impression that a housewife spends ninety nine percent of her time watching television and telephoning friends, you can make him wear high heels while he helps out with the chores, perhaps adding stockings and even a skirt. It won't take long for him to appreciate just how hard housework can be when he's run off his feet, hindered by the kind of footwear he would normally take for granted when he's not the one wearing it.
to help him diet

Men are no different to women when it comes to putting on weight - so easy to do, yet so hard to reverse. Although the source of unwanted calories may be differ for your husband - pies and beer rather than chocolate and cake, for example - it's still all too easy for him to indulge in one too many treats. Then there's the problem of finding the time and motivation to exercise rather than simply succumbing to a sedentary lifestyle, sitting in front of the television being far more tempting than going out for a run on a cold winter's night. Put the two together and it's all too easy for his waistline to balloon, but such an expansion in girth brings with it a corresponding reduction in attractiveness. There's simply nothing sexy about a man who gets out of breath climbing the stairs or running for the train, sweat dripping off his flabby body, beer belly bouncing - not when you know what he could be if only he tried.

If you've ever longed for your husband to return to the slim, fit man you once knew, yet despair of endlessly nagging him to do the right thing as far as his health and fitness are concerned, you'll find women's underwear a powerful ally in the battle to get him back in shape - especially foundation wear designed to shape a woman's curves. Control underwear of the kind that holds in tums and bums works just as well on a man, but choosing an overtly feminine style gives the wearer an added incentive to sort himself out. The bra cups of a bodyshaper can be padded around the house to simulate the man breasts that are sure to develop should your husband fail to change course, or merely filled naturally by tissue pushed out from elsewhere. Quite apart from the physical impact of having distinct breasts, the knowledge that his cup size is comparable to that of a woman's is something that's sure to motivate a man to lose the flab.

In addition to more modern attire, traditional garments such as girdles and longline brassières may also be employed to good effect, but they pale in comparison to a tightly laced corset. Not only does the crushing imposition of such a fearsome foundation garment make its presence unforgettably known, it also serves a far more practical purpose - it's simply impossible for a man to eat too much when his stomach is being squeezed into a dainty hourglass, or at least, as close an approximation to one as his body permits. Moreover, unlike garments which fasten with hooks, the tightness to which a corset may be laced is completely variable, allowing you to gradually ramp up the challenge involved in wearing it or otherwise adapt it to your husband's requirements.

There are several ways in which such attire can be employed to encourage dieting. Firstly, it can be reserved as a punishment for when your husband fails to meet your expectations, a means of motivating him to achieve his weekly goals. If his weight falls in line with his diet plan, there's no need for his stays to leave the lingerie drawer, but should he have succumbed once too often to the temptation of an extra course, he'll have ample time to repent of it whilst suitably cinched - whether over the course of a weekend, or every weekday evening. A more severe regime would see him corseted on such occasions as a matter of course until he finally achieved his desired weight, then retired to the back of the wardrobe to be brought out should he ever relapse. Finally, depending on circumstances, it may be possible to have him wear a shorter garment, such as a waist cincher, at all times until he's slim and trim again. Doing so requires some care on his part to avoid discovery, but is singularly effective with regards to motivating a man to shed those unwanted pounds.
to encourage his lingerie discipline

Lingerie discipline is most effective when a man gives himself to it wholeheartedly, being prepared to put in the effort required and accept any immediate inconvenience in exchange for far greater long term benefits. When your husband is still getting used to wearing women's underwear on a regular basis, however, it can prove tempting for him to try and cut corners, maybe even cheat, for the sake of short term convenience - despite the inevitable future cost of taking the easy way out. Despite lingerie discipline being a great tool for developing his willpower, your husband still needs enough self-control to give it a chance to work its wonders on him.

When looking to extend when your husband wears women's underwear for you, you'll want to encourage him to pay the kind of attention to his underwear that's required if he's to wear it in public. He'll need to learn to fix his bra straps before they slip far enough to require more drastic measures, and show respect for his hosiery to keep it from laddering overly frequently. More seriously, you may wish to discourage him from complaining about what he wears unless there's genuinely a problem with it, or you may even have caught him trying to shirk his discipline, maybe taking his bra off when he thought you weren't looking and wouldn't find out - the kind of bad habits that are best dealt with before they have a chance to become ingrained.

Either way, lingerie makes the perfect punishment in such circumstances - supremely effective thanks to how closely it is linked to his misdemeanour. Letting his bra straps fall slovenly around his arms might result in him having to wear one whose straps slip at the slightest provocation, perhaps beneath a short sleeved top where there's no hiding them if they do. Grumbling too much about his regular panties might earn him time in a particularly tight thong, whereas trying to get away without wearing his bra might mean he swaps it for one that's particularly heavily padded - maybe even locked in place to ensure he won't be similarly tempted to skip his punishment. Your husband's regular lingerie is sure to seem like a walk in the park in contrast, subconsciously reinforcing the suggestion that it's reasonable for him to wear it for you.

Consent and choices

Just as erotic feminization and lingerie discipline require your husband's consent before he can be dressed in lingerie, so too does putting him in panties for the purposes of punishment. However strange the idea of consenting to a punishment may sound on the face of it, it's actually a vital part of proceedings. No matter how popular a theme it may be in some erotic fantasies, there's simply no way that a man can be forced to wear lingerie against his will - at least, not without resorting to an impractical degree of bondage, something that also requires consent in order to form part of a loving relationship. While you might “force” him to wear panties as part of a bedroom game if that's your kind of thing, a genuine punishment is quite different, requiring his willing acceptance just as much as anything else - even if that's more likely to be quiet acquiescence than full blown enthusiasm.

Nevertheless, when presented as a means of atonement for past misdemeanours, and with the consequences of complying versus not doing so spelled out, most men can be persuaded to go along with wearing punishment lingerie - perhaps somewhat reluctantly if they've never done so before, perhaps requiring some persuasion to overcome their doubts about it, but ultimately willing to submit nonetheless. Not doing so means disappointing the woman they love yet again, whereas wearing whatever's required of them by her, however uncomfortable or embarrassing, provides an opportunity to make things up, demonstrating that they're man enough to face up to the consequences of their actions rather than simply run away from them. Moreover, once your husband has submitted to lingerie punishment once, he'll know just what an effect it has when it comes to clearing the air between you, allowing him to make a fresh start unfettered by any grievances that might otherwise linger.

We've already touched on the subject of discouraging your husband from taking his lingerie off without your knowledge or permission with regards to lingerie discipline, but similar techniques can be just as useful in ensuring he serves out his lingerie punishment rather than being tempted to take the easy way out. Once your husband has promised to accept his punishment, you can make sure he stays the course by sewing or locking the garments in question closed, allowing him to go wherever he needs to in his punishment attire without you having any fear that he might be tempted to surreptitiously remove them. Even around the house, locking lingerie has a symbolic value that makes it well worth the trouble of adapting some of his underwear to allow it to be secured, sending a clear and unmistakable message regarding who's in charge.

An approach you may like to consider is offering your husband a choice of equally unpalatable punishments, perhaps allowing him to choose between two similarly tight bras, one black, one red - both as bad as the other as far as comfort and visibility are concerned, but left down to him to decide which one he must wear. Alternatively, you may wish to let him choose between genuinely different punishments - an hour in a tightly laced corset and heavily padded bra versus an entire weekend wearing a thong under his clothes, regardless of where that may be. Both allow ample opportunity for improvisation, as well as giving you insight as to the kinds of punishment he likes least - you can use this knowledge at a later date should he warrant being punished in earnest, choosing what you know he wouldn't to really drive the point home.

Presenting your husband with a choice in the matter, however nominal, is important psychologically, as it demonstrates his consent in a way far more explicit than simply allowing himself to be dressed by you. Involving him in the decision about how he should be punished allows him to feel that he has greater control over proceedings, even though you're primarily driving things, making his sense of atonement far greater as a result. Not only is he voluntarily submitting to wearing whatever uncomfortable or embarrassing attire is required for his punishment, he's actively involved in its selection - leaving him with far less room to grumble about it later. “Well, you should have picked the other one!”, you can tease him unhelpfully if he does, but the chances are that he won't complain - precisely because he knows that it was his choice to make.

Of course, sometimes a choice is no choice at all. While notionally a man might be able to wear a bulging bra to work in place of an uncomfortably tight unpadded one, in practice there's no way he'll want to flaunt a feminine bust in front of his colleagues, making the tighter punishment bra a fait accompli. Similarly, if what you really want is to introduce your husband to doing chores around the house, you can offer him an early way out of his punishment attire if he goes along with cleaning the kitchen for you - letting him out once he's finished as opposed to having to spend the rest of the night in it. Although that may seem a little manipulative at first glance, in practice your husband will be left with the same sense of having paid off his guilt as a result of getting down to business with the pots and pans, not to mention the feeling of satisfaction that comes from having done a job well afterwards - meaning you both gain from the exercise!