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Chapter 10: Bras and Breasts

So far, all the garments we've been looking at have had their male equivalents, however different the female variety may be. Panties achieve the same general purpose as men's briefs, albeit designed for a woman's physique, whereas stockings may be regarded as simply long, thin socks. Despite their evidently different connotations, there's nothing fundamental about their function that prevents a man from wearing them. Bras, however, are different - designed to support a woman's breasts, there's simply no analogue as far as men's clothing is concerned, because most men's chests really don't require such support. With the exception of certain medical conditions such as gynecomastia and morbid obesity, men just don't have breasts large enough to really warrant a bra, nor is there any cultural imperative for them to wear one for the purposes of modesty - indeed, obese men often go bare chested in places where even a less well endowed woman would attract unwanted attention were she to be topless.

As a secondary sexual characteristic, female breasts have erotic connotations that are enhanced by their highly erogenous nature, aspects lacking in those of the male. Men are instinctively attracted and aroused by them, but outside of the bedroom this natural tendency is tempered by the presence of clothing, of which the innermost layer is generally a bra - the final barrier between a man and the objects of his desire. Because of its close proximity to a woman's breasts, the bra inherits a mystique far beyond its mere function, enhancing its contents whilst paradoxically shielding them from view, itself deemed immodest to be displayed too openly in public. Moreover, like other lingerie, bras are usually lusciously sexy affairs quite unlike mundane male underwear, but their unmasculine satin and lace is coupled with aspects quite alien to men's clothing - straps, hooks and underwires that set the bra apart as being uniquely feminine. Small wonder that many men find women's bras as fascinating as their panties - even a glimpse of one can prove quite titillating for some.

In the popular consciousness, bras are strictly for women - men don't wear them. Even those who would genuinely benefit from the support that one offers tend to shy away from wearing a bra as a result of the stigma attached to doing so, perhaps opting for compression vests deliberately designed to look as little like their female counterpart as possible. For the vast majority of men who have no breasts to speak of, it is impossible to explain away the presence of a bra. Unlike panties or stockings, which might possibly be justified on practical grounds, a man wearing a bra must be doing so for psychological reasons - perhaps for the thrill of the taboo or the sense of femininity it engenders in him. Bras are generally regarded as the preserve of transvestites and transsexuals, the outline of their straps marking a man out as different.

However mundane you may find donning yours each morning, wearing a bra is sure to prove an experience like no other for your husband from both a physical and psychological perspective. The tight embrace of a bra around his chest is like nothing to be found in his regular wardrobe, making itself known with every breath he takes. However delicate a bra may appear from the outside, perhaps previously regarded as just a dainty confection to be plucked from your body, once your husband is wearing one himself, he'll know just how sturdy a garment a bra can be. With its underwires pressing into his chest and straps pulling on his shoulders, it'll be impossible for him to forget its presence - even before you consider padding it out. Simply getting into a bra can prove quite a challenge thanks to the multitude of hooks and eyes that must be carefully matched up behind his back, but once your husband's safely fastened into one, he's then got a similar problem in order to get out again!

It's not just physically that a bra imposes itself upon the male wearer. The psychological significance of wearing this most feminine of garments cannot be underestimated. The unfamiliar tightness around your husband's chest serves to remind him of the wealth of connotations associated with its cause - a heady mix of femininity that brings out a softer, gentler side to your man, both in the bedroom and beyond. As soon as he surrenders to the embrace of a bra, his submission is sealed with the clasp behind his back, keeping his less desirable aspects in check for as long as your husband remains within its grasp. Such is the power of the bra that, depending on circumstances, it can both arouse and subdue, allowing you to keep your husband exactly where you'd like him - whether that's turned on in private, or under control in public.

Figure 10.1: The ruffles and bows of this fancy padded bra combine with its pastel colour and heart motif to make my husband look and feel unmistakably feminine.

In the bedroom, a bra is the perfect accompaniment to having your husband wear matching panties, but it's just as effective in its own right. It can remain on throughout proceedings, imparting its unrivalled femininity to your lovemaking without ever getting in the way. Simply putting a bra on him can be a whole lot of fun - slipping its straps up your husband's arms and fastening its clasp behind his back before fiddling with its cups to ensure the perfect fit need not be something performed perfunctorily, but can be made an erotic experience all by itself, especially if your husband is expected to keep still throughout. Once he's securely strapped in, you can toy with its straps or caress his nipples through its lace or satin before encouraging him to do the same with yours. Even if you make no special effort to remind him of its presence, you can be sure your husband won't be able to take his bra for granted, its intimate embrace serving to arouse him as he sees and feels the same kind of sexy lingerie on his body that he would normally associate with yours.

Having your husband wear a bra is just as effective when he's out and about, albeit encouraging a less sexual form of submission. Wearing a bra in public poses a far greater challenge for a man than panties or stockings thanks to its more imposing presence, not only in terms of physical sensations, but also the sense of heightened vulnerability it induces. There's something about wearing a bra that leaves a man feeling as though everyone must know what he has on under his shirt, however perfectly hidden it may be - perhaps the difficulty in telling whether its straps are really invisible when he bends over, or simply the knowledge that there would be no way to explain away its presence were he to be found out. Because only women are expected to wear bras, a man who dons one is placing himself in a perilous predicament - making the bra perfectly suited for both lingerie discipline and lingerie punishment.

Compared to the garments we've looked at so far in this book, a bra offers endless possibilities if you're looking to make your husband's lingerie more challenging for him - whether as a punishment, or simply to teach him something about what it's like to be a woman. Bras can be padded to give the impression of breasts, ranging from the barely perceivable to the implausibly impractical, just enough to make your husband feel more self-conscious about his chest or so ludicrously large as to be a constant nuisance, getting in the way of even the most straightforward of activities. The more substantial form of a bra means that one can easily be made much too tight for comfort whilst still remaining suitable to be worn out and about, resulting in quite a predicament - your husband endlessly wanting to adjust it, but unable to find an opportunity to do so! Alternatively, you can make his bra more conspicuous to those around him - either subtly, so as to make wearing it more awkward for your husband, or so painfully obvious that he's unable to leave the house in it.

Bringing all these factors together, there's no doubt that the bra is the most powerful of all the lingerie that a woman normally wears, uniquely suited for the purposes of erotic feminization, lingerie discipline and punishment alike. Whether you're fooling around in the bedroom, teaching your husband the error of his ways or simply keeping him on the straight and narrow, having him wear a bra is unrivalled in terms of its simplicity and effectiveness - no matter whether he dons it occasionally or is expected to do so more regularly.

What makes a good bra for a man?

If you're like many women, finding the right bra for yourself can often be frustrating enough, let alone the thought of doing so for your husband. Whereas the fit of panties can be judged from simple hip measurements and hosiery often comes in one size that fits all, bras come in a huge range of different sizes to reflect the full gamut of the feminine physique - from tiny little training bras right through to those expected to support the largest of bosoms. With both band and cup size to contend with, quite apart from matters of style, it can be hard to know where to begin when looking for your husband's first bra. Fortunately, kitting him out in this most feminine of garments is far simpler than it might appear at first glance - without even needing him to be there in person to help with the fitting. Indeed, many women lament the fact that buying bras for their husband is far easier than for doing so for themselves!

As a woman, it's natural to assume that a bra must fit the breasts perfectly, but getting the right cup size is far less important if your husband won't be wearing one for support. Indeed, if your husband is broad chested, it may be difficult, if not impossible, to find bras that are sufficiently wide yet flat enough to match his body without resorting to specialist suppliers. Thankfully, pretty much any bra with the right band size will do the trick as far as erotic feminization and lingerie discipline are concerned - in fact, as we'll see shortly, there's a lot of fun to be had from having your husband wear a bra with much larger cups than he actually needs. When shopping for your husband's first bra, all you need to concern yourself with is ensuring the band size is approximately right, and even that can be estimated from his shirt size.

Figure 10.2: Your husband doesn't need to fill the cups of his bra for it to work its magic upon him, as this pretty pink bra trimmed with ribbons shows.

Many of the distinctions that are ordinarily important when choosing bras for yourself are irrelevant as far as those for your husband are concerned. While you might debate whether the enhanced cleavage from a push-up bra is worth its additional discomfort when compared to a less uplifting alternative, these are details that will be lost on a man who lacks any bosom to boost. Different criteria are needed when choosing a bra for your husband, based on how a particular garment will affect him rather than what it might do for you. In the bedroom, it doesn't matter how impractical his bra might be for a woman to wear so long as it makes your husband feel sexy and submissive. The ease with which his bra can be kept hidden under other clothing is key when it comes to choosing one for him to wear out and about - details that you might never normally notice, such as the position of the strap adjusters, proving critical. Even selecting a bra for your husband to wear as a punishment benefits from an understanding of what makes wearing one uncomfortable for a man - something which can be surprisingly at odds with what you might choose to avoid yourself!

Unless he has substantial breasts of his own, the experience of wearing a bra will be rather different for your husband than yourself - more similar to that of a girl who has yet to really need a proper bra than that of a well endowed woman, at least from a physical perspective. Whereas a woman's attention is naturally drawn to the effect that a bra has on her breasts in lifting and shaping them, a flat-chested man is aware of his bra in terms of the tightness around his body, a sensation not unlike wearing a belt. Although uncomfortable underwires are sadly something that many women are all too familiar with, their presence is particularly noticeable for a man, often being the only part of the bra cup that remains in contact with his chest. Similarly, a men wearing a bra is often surprisingly conscious of subtle details that women usually overlook - the clasp resting against his spine, the band under his armpits. Even without any load to support, his bra straps will have much more of a presence on his shoulders than you might expect from a female point of view.

Many bras have moulded foam cups for the purpose of providing a smoother look under close fitting tops without any unsightly lumps and bumps, preserving the wearer's modesty not least by preventing her nipples from protruding. Sometimes such bras are slightly padded, perhaps even with a gel insert, to give a subtle boost to more natural charms. While a woman might choose such a T-shirt bra to avoid her underwear showing, these padded bras have quite the opposite effect when worn by a man, serving to emphasise his bust and draw attention to the garment responsible for enhancing it. Even when empty, it's difficult to flatten such cups for any length of time, giving your husband a protruding chest that simply won't go away - whether for punishment or for play! Moreover, the smooth profile they present makes them particularly amenable to stuffing with whatever's to hand without sacrificing appearances, as we'll see later.

Figure 10.3: Even a completely plain bra is still more than feminine enough for the purposes of discipline or punishment - hardly something a man would wear.

It's easy to be overwhelmed by the choice of bras available, but at the end of the day, you can't go too wrong with whatever catches your eye. However picky you may be about your own underwear, buying bras for husband has the advantage that whatever you opt for is still a singularly feminine garment, guaranteed to work its magic upon him as soon as he's securely strapped into it. As with any other garment, you'll gradually gain a feel for what works best for particular situations, but even a bra that's badly chosen can be put to other uses thanks to the unique power of this garment. A bra too uncomfortable for the bedroom may be reserved for punishment purposes, whereas one that proves too obvious to be worn out and about for lingerie discipline may be used around the house for erotic feminization instead. Any bra will be more than enough to feminize your husband, so don't be afraid to experiment and see what bras can do for him!

How do I introduce my husband to wearing a bra?

No matter what you wish to achieve from having your husband wear a bra, it's easy to introduce him to its feminine embrace - whether by adding one to his other lingerie or simply starting off with one by itself. Your husband is sure to be familiar with you wearing a bra and panties, a natural combination as far as women's underwear is concerned, so there's no reason why you can't present him with both together. Once you've persuaded your husband into a pair of panties, it's hard for him to resist a matching bra as well - after all, women wear both as a matter of course, and he's already halfway there. Alternatively, you can put your husband in a bra separately, something especially well suited for the purposes of punishment, but equally at home for those of play.

In the bedroom, your husband's instinctive desire for the contents of your bra offers one avenue towards getting him into one of his own. It's natural for him to want to get his hands on your breasts, but that doesn't mean you have to make things easy for him - have him work for your body, rather than handing it to him on a plate! Choose a bra that's attractive but awkward to fasten, and challenge him to take it off, letting him struggle with unhooking it while you tease him or generally make things harder for him. You can encourage him to caress your breasts through the cups of your bra, or suggest he runs his hands inside its band and straps as a prelude to divesting you of it. By making a much bigger deal out of what you're wearing rather than simply discarding your bra at the first opportunity, you pave the way for turning the tables on your husband, helping him appreciate the erotic potential of such a sexy garment.

Even before he has a bra of his own, you can still lay yours on his body or run the straps up his arms, no matter how dissimilar you are in size - your bra doesn't need to fasten behind his back to give the impression that he's wearing it, nor should that stop you stroking his body through it, telling him how much it turns you on to see him wearing such sexy lingerie. If he found it difficult to take your bra off, you can tease him by telling him that he obviously needs more practice and so you're going to buy him one of his own, whereas if unhooking it was perfectly straightforward, he's obviously a natural when it comes to wearing bras, so that's what you're going to have him do. Either way, it's easy to introduce the idea of using a bra for erotic feminization in a lighthearted, joking manner, all the while sexually teasing your husband so as to make it harder for him to resist the suggestion that he'll wear one for you.

When your husband is already aroused, it's easy to pull a bra out suddenly from under the pillow and encourage him into it, setting about sliding the straps up his arms in the same swift motion such that your husband can be half wearing it before he really knows what is happening. Presented as a playful dressing up game, even a reluctant husband can be persuaded into a bra properly when he's already part of the way there, especially when to do otherwise would spoil the mood. The promise of a special treat if he plays along can be enough to tip the balance if he still seems hesitant, something that can alternatively be offered in advance, daring your husband to put the bra on first in exchange. Such a reward need not become a regular part of your lovemaking if you don't wish it to - once you've got your husband into a bra once, you'll find it far easier to do so on subsequent occasions, something he's done before and so can do again for you as part of your intimate repertoire.

Having your husband wear a bra has the benefit that it can remain on throughout proceedings without ever getting in the way, as well as offering a multitude of ways to play with him in it. If his bra is unpadded, you can stroke his nipples through its lace or satin, whereas a padded one lets you make out that he has breasts of his own, however inferior to the real thing they may be. You can toy with his bra in all of the ways he might do with yours, tracing its outline with your fingers or running your hands inside it. You can encourage his bra straps to slip down his shoulders, pretending that they're pinning his arms to his sides, or make a fuss about putting them back into position, playfully chastising your husband about his immodesty. Idly fiddling with lace, ribbons and other embellishments is a great way of emphasising such feminine details, or you can take a more forceful approach and cheekily snap his bra's elastic.

Of course, there's no reason why your husband's bras should be restricted to just the bedroom, however much fun having him don one for erotic feminization may be. Like other lingerie, it's easy to extend your husband's bra wearing into other aspects of his life, either as a gradual progression away from more intimate activities or something presented entirely separately. Whether you have him wear one around the house or more further afield, a bra is just as well suited for the purposes of lingerie discipline and punishment as it is for spicing up your sex life - more so than the other garments we've previously looked at thanks to its greater imposition upon the wearer. Because a bra is correspondingly harder to hide from those around him, it's best to do this slowly, building up your husband's confidence with wearing one in safer, more anonymous situations before expecting him to do so in front of people he knows.

How can my husband keep his bra hidden?

It doesn't matter how obvious your husband's bra is if he's just wearing it around the house - indeed, it can often be beneficial to make its presence utterly undeniable. However, if you're intending for him to wear a bra in public, perhaps on a regular basis, it's vital that no-one should ever know what he's got on underneath his shirt. Although it's perfectly possible for a man to keep his bra completely hidden, doing so requires rather more care than simply assuming his other clothing will take care of things - unlike panties or hosiery, where it's generally enough just to throw on a pair of trousers, a bra needs somewhat greater consideration if it is to remain unnoticed by even the most attentive of observers. Nevertheless, provided your husband follows a few simple rules, there's no reason why he can't wear a bra wherever and whenever a woman would, without any risk of discovery - however he might feel otherwise!

To give your husband an appropriate understanding of what can give a bra away, it's worth taking him somewhere where you can watch people going about their everyday business, such as a busy shopping centre. Although almost all the women you'll see will be wearing bras, some will be far more noticeable than others. Some women are apparently oblivious to how obvious their underwear is, others flaunt it with abandon, openly displaying their bra straps alongside those of a croptop, but many manage to avoid demonstrating any sign of what they might be wearing underneath, leaving their choice of underwear to be inferred only from their gender. Sometimes, a previously invisible bra becomes more apparent as the wearer bends over or stretches, sometimes the subtle bumps of the strap adjusters are there all along but only to those actively looking for them. Seeing such signs on another's back is far easier than teaching your husband the meaning of them on his own, as well as serving to reinforce his lingerie discipline by illustrating just what wearing a bra for you means - your husband joining the other half of the population who do likewise as a symbol of his submission to you.

Choosing the right combination of underwear and outerwear is the key to keeping a bra hidden, no matter whether the wearer is a woman or a man. Obviously, you won't want your husband to be emulating any of the more egregious fashion faux pas you may have seen, such as wearing a black bra under a thin white blouse, but there are more subtle choices that can make a world of difference. As far as his outerwear is concerned, it's generally better to opt for thicker, darker coloured clothing that hangs more loosely on his body. Layering clothes is something that may not come as naturally to your husband as to yourself, but can help enormously as far as hiding a bra is concerned - a couple of layers of loose clothing will disguise an otherwise obvious outline thanks to the ridges and folds naturally created between them. Even something as simple as adding a T-shirt beneath a shirt is usually sufficient to achieve this.

Some bras are better suited to being worn discreetly than others. By far the most pernicious indication that a bra is being worn is the pair of bumps caused by the strap adjusters - a subtle, yet unmistakable sign to those looking more closely, even if the rest of the bra remains completely invisible. Some bras have additional embellishments that make them even worse in this respect, but others offer an entirely smooth back as far as the straps are concerned - these are obviously preferable for the male wearer, but are sadly in the minority. Alternatively, a strapless or multiway bra may be worn the straps arranged such that their adjusters are on the wearer's chest. Although not as ideal as the aforementioned continuous design, they are nevertheless quite adequate for the most part, with the advantage of being more readily available.

Figure 10.4: The position of the strap adjusters on this bra runs the risk of displaying tell-tale bumps, even when the rest of the bra is perfectly hidden.

Figure 10.5: A bra with continuous back straps is infinitely preferable for avoiding the dreaded bra-strap bumps, placing the strap adjusters on the wearer's chest.

Figure 10.6: A bra with detachable straps also allows the strap adjusters to be positioned out of harm's way. Such bras are readily available in a range of styles.

Figure 10.7: A multiway bra allows your husband to wear his bra straps criss-crossed at the back, preventing them from slipping down his shoulders.

Many women automatically adjust their bra straps whenever they start slipping down, a habit that can become so ingrained as to be performed practically unconsciously, without any regard for who may be watching. Slipping straps are rather more problematic for the bra wearing man, something compounded by his natural lack of breasts. Whereas a woman's bra straps are stretched by the weight in her cups, there's a tendency for the band of a man's bra to ride up, leaving the straps lying loose on his shoulders. It's only a matter of time before they then start to slip down his arms, whereupon he's faced with the new challenge of how to put them right without anyone noticing. Simply reaching into his shirt for them as a woman would is a very distinctive gesture - one too obvious to be performed in front of an audience. Conversely, leaving his bra straps dangling around his arms is not only slovenly but poses problems of its own, both in terms of comfort and visibility - especially under a T-shirt!

Tightening both your husband's bra straps and the bra itself can help reduce the frequency with which he needs to make such awkward adjustments, choosing the narrowest fastening to keep the straps as close to the centre of his body as possible. Again, some bras are better than others in this regard - those whose bands are longer or stiffer are less likely to ride up, allowing their straps to be kept comfortably taut rather than unduly tight. The occasional slippage should not be regarded as too much of a problem, however, as it serves to remind your husband about what he's wearing, reinforcing his discipline in the process - even the possibility that his bra straps might soon start to slip is enough to keep a man slightly on edge. If it is essential that they never do, or you merely wish to make wearing a bra slightly easier for your husband, a multiway bra allows the straps to be criss-crossed at the back.

It's natural for your husband to imagine that everyone can see his bra, even under the thickest of clothing - after all, the tightness around his chest is all too obvious to him, so why shouldn't it be to other people? The sense of vulnerability that wearing a bra imparts is much of what makes this garment so powerful for the purposes of lingerie discipline, but you may find that your husband is disproportionately concerned about discovery - indeed, you may even be worried about it yourself! It's easy to assume that the slightest hint of a bra beneath his clothing will be immediately pounced upon by those around him, but in practice, even the most obvious signs of such feminine underwear can go completely unnoticed, simply because people just aren't expecting to see anything of the sort when they look at a man. Prior to reading this book, how often have you studied a man's back looking for the subtlest of bumps?

The degree to which your husband's bra must be hidden also depends on where he will be wearing it. The relative anonymity of a shopping centre provides an ideal venue to help build your husband's confidence with regards to wearing a bra in public. In the remote event of anyone noticing his intimate attire, something that is most unlikely if you've followed the advice presented here, the worst your husband can expect is an odd look or perhaps an unkind comment. In general, however, people will be far too busy going about their own business to worry about what anyone else is wearing unless it's glaringly obviously. While that doesn't mean you should purposely make your husband's bra any more visible than it needs to be, you'll find that having him wear one in public is far easier than either you or he might imagine, such that he can soon progress to wearing a bra in more challenging situations.

Just because your husband's bra is hidden doesn't mean you can't remind him of its presence, even when in the company of other people. Resting a hand upon his shoulder blade is such an innocuous gesture that no-one will ever remark about it, but should your fingers rest upon your husband's bra strap, let alone trace its outline, you can be sure that he'll get the message. For a more forceful reminder, you can press down upon his bra's underwires or the buckles of its strap adjusters, something that's equally easy to achieve surreptitiously - even among others. Less discreetly, you can reach into his shirt and toy with his bra directly - perhaps a little too intimate for a formal gathering, but easily overlooked by onlookers when out shopping, walking snuggled up close with your arm wrapped around him. If he's wearing a jacket on top, no-one need ever know where your hand ends up, but your husband will be all too aware of your fingers working their way around the lace and satin he's wearing underneath.

Reminding your husband of his bra need not be done physically, of course. Even in front of others, you can make subtle allusions to his intimate attire that only your husband will understand but will nevertheless serve to keep him on the straight and narrow. An unspoken threat of having to wear a punishment bra can be just as effective as one that's more explicit, yet need mean nothing to anyone else - suggesting that he'll be getting changed when he gets home is all it takes. Another approach is to make him wear a bra that's painfully obvious through a thin white shirt with only a coat on top for protection, or perhaps adding a sweater that barely hides what's underneath. Suggesting that you might divest him of one or more layers of outerwear is sure to get your husband's attention, yet can be phrased perfectly innocently. Of course, when there's just the two of you in earshot, you can be much more open about what your husband is wearing for you, whether as a playful tease or a more serious caution. He'll be sure to start listening when you mention his bra, and having got your husband's attention, you can direct it accordingly.

How can I make him wear a bra as a punishment?

The more imposing presence of a bra, both physically and psychologically, makes this garment particularly well suited for use as a punishment, especially given the way in which certain styles lend themselves to being awkward for the male wearer. Moreover, the huge range of sizes that bras are available in really comes into its own as far as chastisement is concerned, allowing you to choose a bra for your husband that is much too large in one respect and yet much too small in another. The wide variety of options means that making your husband wear a bra is something that can be tailored to meet your needs, allowing him to go about his everyday business whilst being punished or ensuring that he's unable to leave the house for the duration. Being made to wear a bra as a punishment can range from being mildly unsettling for your husband to severely uncomfortable depending how you choose to have him do so, suitable for both short term chastisement and more prolonged correction.

If your husband is not used to wearing a bra, simply having to do so at all may be punishment enough - especially if you insist on taking him out in public once you've put him in one. Not only will this allow your husband to atone for letting you down, it also acts as an ideal introduction to wearing a bra for the purposes of lingerie discipline, presented in a manner which makes it difficult for him to refuse. Provided you clearly distinguish between when he's being punished and when he's merely submitting to your wishes, an occasional punishment can act as a prelude to more regular discipline - or extend that discipline further. No matter how much your husband might already do so at other times, making him wear a bra in situations he wouldn't normally can work a treat - especially if they're associated with why he's being punished.

There are many ways in which you can make your husband's bra wearing more uncomfortable for him. From a physical perspective, you can make him wear a bra that is too tight - simply choosing a band size that's a couple of inches smaller than he would normally wear can be quite sufficient in this regard, especially one that's cut from relatively stiff, inelastic material. A deeper band will also be more noticeable - the longline brassière, which we'll be looking at in the next chapter, is the archetypal example of this. Regardless of style, your husband's bra straps can be overtightened such that they dig into his shoulders and the strap adjusters may be sewn in place in order to prevent them loosening. Needless to say, any punishment bra should be underwired for maximum effect - a combination of tight band and straps will serve to press the bra's underwires firmly against your husband's body. All of this can be achieved whilst still leaving the bra able to be worn under regular attire, allowing you to send your husband to work in his punishment bra if you so desire.

Even the most physically comfortable of bras can still be psychologically daunting for a man when chosen to enhance his sense of vulnerability whilst wearing it. Making it harder for your husband to keep his bra hidden, such that it requires his constant attention to avoid exposure, is one way of achieving this. You can make him wear a bra with slightly padded cups - not so large to be unmistakably feminine, but ambiguous enough to warrant a second glance should he push his chest forward. Alternatively, you can have him wear a combination of underwear and outerwear such that the subtle bumps of his strap adjusters are revealed whenever he leans over, forcing him to stand and sit perfectly straight if you take him out shopping so dressed. His bra straps may also be loosened such that they slip down at the slightest provocation, putting him in a real predicament if he's somewhere he can't easily adjust them.

Around the house, you can make your husband's bra painfully visible, such that anyone seeing it will be left in no doubt as to precisely what he is wearing - your husband included! A close fitting, thin white T-shirt is ideal for this, especially when worn over a contrasting coloured bra. For greater exposure, have him wear a strappy top instead, not only giving him two sets of straps to have to worry about, but allowing you to snap their elastic whenever the fancy takes you - a sure way of bringing your husband's attention back to you. The same is true if he's wearing nothing but a bra on top, whether otherwise naked save for matching panties, or merely with regular menswear below. You can also pad his bra out more fully, even to ludicrous proportions should you so desire, giving him a bouncing bosom to rival that of any woman - we'll be looking at how to do this shortly. Either way, you can be sure that your husband won't want anyone else to see him in such an embarrassing state, keeping him right where you want him for as long as he remains so attired.

Figure 10.8: Beneath this thin white top, my husband's bra is painfully obvious - no-one seeing it would be in any doubt about what he was wearing underneath.

Figure 10.9: Having your husband wear a strappy top leaves his bra straps completely exposed, allowing you to toy with them or snap them at your fancy.

For a punishment to be effective, it's essential that your husband serves his time in whatever you decide he must wear. One of the beautiful things about a bra is the ease with which it may be secured in such a way as to indicate whether your husband has removed it or not, or even to make it impossible to take off without physically destroying it. Simply sewing the clasp of his bra closed with a simple loop of thread is often sufficient to achieve this, ideally passing the stitch through the garment on top such that the bra is fastened to your husband's shirt or T-shirt and thus difficult to rotate around the body. Although such a contrivance could easily be torn off, your husband will be utterly unable to put it back the same again afterwards, giving you an undeniable indicator as to whether he has complied with your wishes or requires a more forceful application of lingerie punishment - even in your absence.

Figure 10.10: With a little sewing, a bra may be secured with a padlock, reinforcing the message that your husband must wear it until you decide otherwise.

With a little extra sewing, two loops of ribbon may be introduced to the clasp of a bra, allowing it to be fastened closed with a padlock - something which can be augmented with an additional strap and collar if required. While the security of such a setup is more psychological than physical, in that your husband could still free himself with a pair of scissors were he so determined, a suitably penitent man is unlikely to even consider the possibility once he accepts his punishment. By giving you the last word as to when he is released, a locking bra serves to reinforce your husband's submission to your wishes, as well as allowing you to make a ritual out of locking and unlocking him. Of course, you don't have to go to such lengths for a bra to work wonders as a punishment - simply setting a precedent that only you unfasten him can be enough.

What about giving him breasts?

Figure 10.11: Unlike a woman, your husband can have whatever size breasts you like! Here my husband wears an ambiguous 36A and an undeniable 36FF.

Unless your husband has unusually large breasts of his own, the chances are that his bras won't fit him in the same way they would a woman - their cups don't support his chest, but instead hang loosely from it. That's because most men are simply too flat chested for there to be bras available in their natural size without going to the trouble of ordering from a specialist supplier - regardless of how broad or narrow chested they may be. Fortunately, a perfect fit really isn't necessary for any of the purposes we've been discussing, but your husband's empty bra cups naturally raise the question of whether they can be put to use by giving him a semblance of breasts of his own.

Provided you have your husband wear a bra that's suitably supportive, the answer is a resounding yes! Indeed, filling his cups can give him more than just the appearance of breasts - depending on what you use to stuff them, the weight of his newly enhanced bosom can rival that of even the bustiest of women, making their presence known physically as well as psychologically. A heavily laden bra will not only pull down on your husband's shoulders, but its contents are liable to jiggle around when he moves, forcing him to adapt his posture and gait if his chest is not to bounce around uncontrollably. Moreover, a bulging bust gets in the way of even the simplest of activities in a manner that most men have difficulty appreciating until they've experienced it for themselves. Whereas an obviously protruding chest makes itself undeniably known to anyone who might see it, not least your husband, even the most ambiguous of padding will leave him feeling very self-conscious, convinced that all around him are staring at his bust even if it's perfectly invisible.

From this, it should be clear that making your husband wear a padded bra is a great way of giving him a greater understanding of the challenges that a more well endowed woman must face on a daily basis - from the physical encumbrance and discomfort of large, heavy breasts to their more psychological aspects. As a punishment for ogling other women, having to suffer huge breasts of his own is second to none, teaching him that they mean much more to their owners than merely trifles to be flaunted to lecherous onlookers. If your husband complains, he can reminded that the women he is emulating have no choice but to endure such issues for the rest of their lives, whereas he will eventually be released from his penance - so long as he behaves! He'll soon come to regard large breasts in a different light, showing a far greater respect for women in general once he's experienced a little of what we go through daily.

Padding your husband's bra need not be reserved for punishment, however. For the purposes of lingerie discipline, enhancing his bust line serves to reinforce your husband's submission by making him feel more feminized than merely a bra alone might achieve. Modest yet unmistakable breasts are sure to complement whatever other feminine attire he may be wearing, whether that's just lingerie or a more elaborate outfit such as a maid's uniform. Having an undeniably feminine chest not only reminds your husband of his place, but ensures that he won't go where he might be seen by others, making it an ideal way of keeping him around the house, putting him in just the right frame of mind for doing the chores or simply spending an evening in together. Indeed, giving your husband a bulging bosom can be surprisingly sexy, allowing you to spice up your foreplay with a little roleplay or even role reversal if you so desire.

Figure 10.12: A bra with moulded foam cups will give your husband the impression of modest breasts that are difficult to flatten even without additional filling.

There are a variety of options when it comes to what to use to stuff your husband's bra with. If you're fooling around in the bedroom, you might simply grab whatever's closest to hand - bunched up panties or stockings have the benefit of being as soft and smooth against your husband's nipples as they might be elsewhere, not to mention their obvious erotic connotations. They're quite adequate for the purposes of playing around, but lack any real weight and can look rather lumpy under the thin material of an unpadded bra - choosing a bra with moulded foam cups works much better in this regard. Such a bra will give the impression of breasts without any stuffing at all, but filling its cups will keep them from caving in as well as drawing your husband's attention to their presence more.

Figure 10.13: Socks are readily at hand in the bedroom and are a quick and easy way of giving your husband a protruding chest, albeit one that's a bit lumpy.

Water balloons provide a cheap and easy way to simulate the weight of real breasts - simply stretch the neck of a balloon over a tap and fill to whatever size you desire. Inserted into your husband's bra, they'll cause its cups to curve in a reasonably passable manner, as well as bouncing around delightfully whenever he moves. While very small water balloons don't work as well, larger ones can fill even the biggest of bras, allowing you to give your husband a bust to rival any woman's in weight as well as size. Moreover, you can easily put together a range of sizes to suit your needs, reflecting how playful or otherwise you're feeling. Use two balloons, one inside the other, to help minimise the risk of bursting for larger breasts or those that will be subjected to more vigorous activity.

Figure 10.14: Water balloons can be filled to any size, giving your husband an appreciation for just how awkward the weight of large breasts can be.

Silicone breast forms are more expensive than the aforementioned options and are generally only available from specialist suppliers. Nevertheless, they're well worth the trouble to obtain, as they offer an unparallelled realism - designed to mimic a natural breast in terms of both appearance and weight, no matter what their size. Smaller silicone inserts, colloquially known as chicken fillets, are intended for women who wish to enhance their natural charms, but are equally well suited to giving your husband an ambiguous bust line. Larger forms are far harder to ignore, filling out your husband's bra just like real breasts would. Although the difference between skin and silicone is obvious against a man's naked body, under clothing it's far harder to tell that there's anything unreal about your husband's bust. Indeed, under a tight top, a man wearing breast forms can have quite prominent nipples unless his bra is padded, not only giving him insight into another peculiarly feminine problem, but adding the icing to the cake as far as dressing him up as a woman is concerned.

Figure 10.15: Silicone breast forms mimic both the appearance and weight of real breasts, albeit at a price. Many have artificial nipples which protrude prominently.

It's worth noting that whatever you use to fill your husband's bra, the resulting breasts will never be the same as real ones. As obvious as it may sound, it's easy to overlook the fact that even the most realistic of breast forms aren't part of your husband's body - indeed, they only remain in place thanks to his bra. Choosing a bra that provides sufficient support for larger false breasts therefore requires a little care - some styles that emphasise a woman's bust may not work the same on a man's. For instance, a push-up bra intended to enhance the cleavage may simply cause false breasts to collapse together in an unsightly mess. Conversely, the design of a balconette bra provides two well-defined pockets for padding, bordered by the underwires, with generous amounts of material in order to keep everything in place. It's no coincidence that all of the bras featured here are of this style - so long as the band of a balconette bra is appropriate tight, it works a treat.

Although your husband may be acutely aware of his artificially enhanced bust this awareness stems from it impinging upon his body rather than from anything special about the breasts themselves. As such, gently caressing the curve of his bosom, however realistic it may appear, will do little for him physically unless the pressure of your hands makes it through his real chest beneath. A more forceful approach involving squeezing or pressing his bust works better, although you may wish to make it clear that you don't expect to be similarly manhandled yourself! In the bedroom, you can cup his breasts in your hands whilst whispering naughty nothings in his ear, grind your breasts against his, or simply have him make out that he's touching himself as you do the same before swapping over. Whilst the physical limitations of false breasts means that having them will never be quite the same for him as it is for you, even the most rudimentary bra filling can still be more than enough to work wonders.

How can I develop my husband's bra wearing?

The range of possibilities offered by the bra is second to none. However you choose to have your husband wear one, you can be sure that its quintessentially feminine nature will work its magic upon him. You can dress him up in a sexy bra in the bedroom, have him wear a plain bra under his shirt to work, or make him wear an uncomfortably tight bra as a punishment - either way, he'll find it impossible to ignore. Moreover, it's easy to extend his bra wearing from one area into another, giving him a range of bras for every occasion, no matter how you want to make your husband feel - aroused, subdued or humbled, all in a deliciously feminine and submissive way. It doesn't take long before he's able to wear a bra as often as a woman would if you so desire, with only the style changing to suit the circumstances. Equally, however, you can keep a bra as something for special occasions - whether to be worn for punishment or play.

So powerful is the bra for the purposes of lingerie discipline and punishment that it's impossible to cover every aspect of using one for these ends in just a single chapter. If you would like to know more about having your husband wear a bra as a symbol of submission, you may find my book brassièred: a complete guide to brassière discipline of interest. Whether you're merely intrigued by the idea, or are looking for inspiration as to how to take it further in your own relationship, you'll find it covers everything you need to know about bras for men - from various ways of getting your husband into one right through to tips and tricks to keep him on his toes, even if he wears a bra every day.

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