Like Robin Hood or the Knights of the Round Table, medieval chastity belts are steeped in legend, the popular understanding of them shaped more by romantic fantasies than historical fact. The caricatures of intimate armour to be seen in movies set in the Middle Ages are a far cry from the sleek designs of today, but the suggestion that a chastity belt must be uncomfortable, bulky and made of rusty iron isn't the only misconception that lingers in the collective consciousness. The idea that women could be locked up and left for months without further attention is another myth that stubbornly persists, as implausible as even a moment's reflection reveals it to be, along with the notion that chastity belts enforce non-consensual control. Sadly, such fallacies are sufficiently widespread as to shape the expectations even of women who want to give female chastity a try, the reality often coming as something of a shock thanks to how it challenges such unfounded presumptions.
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you don't have to wear a chastity belt all the time
Popular mythology pictures women being belted just before their husbands went off to war, leaving them little choice but to remain locked up for prolonged periods of time. Yet you don't have to wear a chastity belt for more than a few minutes to have fun with being frustrated, its metal capable of adding to the charge of even the briefest of encounters. A couple of hours stuck in the clutches of steel can leave you sopping wet, turning a dinner date denied into a night to remember, whereas you'll look forward to the evening all the more if you go to work wearing a chastity belt, not needing to wear it for more than the day to appreciate your partner's attentions when you come home.
Shorter spells belted spare you from having to worry about some of the less sexy consequences of wearing a chastity belt, which we'll be discussing in due course, as well as being easier on your body. You don't have to concern yourself as much with keeping your chastity belt clean when it will be coming off sooner rather than later, nor suffer the discomfort that can result from trying to wear one for too long. Indeed, it's naïve to imagine that you can lock sturdy metal around your crotch and just leave it there, with a chastity belt requiring time to become accustomed to - not unlike a steel-boned corset or a pair of stiff stilettos. While it's possible to work up to wearing a chastity belt all the time, doing so requires dedication, metal underwear best worn briefly to begin with.
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you can't be made to wear a chastity belt against your will
Being able to remove a chastity belt without the key would seem to defeat its purpose, at least in so far as that's to prevent unauthorised access to your body. The conventional stereotype sees locked metal being as much about stopping faithless wives from willingly going astray as it is about keeping manipulative men from taking advantage of more innocent women, chastity belts being imagined to impose a husband's will whether the wearer likes it or not!
Tales of being trapped in a chastity belt can certainly prove titillating, to the extent that fantasists love to dream up undefeatable contraptions, the loss of the only means of opening them leaving those locked inside condemned to staying chaste for life. In reality, however, even the strongest of safes have their security measured in terms of how long it takes to breach them, there being nothing that one man can make that another can't break given sufficient time and effort. Firefighters who can cut people out of mangled cars aren't going to be stopped by thin strips of metal, however intimate their location - that is, if a capable locksmith doesn't have a say in the matter first.
There may still be bastions of barbarism where women have absolutely no recourse against abusive husbands, but in any remotely civilised society, an approach to the authorities would soon see a chastity belt removed - not to mention the man who imposed it likely to be locked up himself. Of course, that's missing the point, because modern female chastity belts are meant to be worn voluntarily, women willingly accepting the restrictions of steel in exchange for the benefits that being belted brings. That means it doesn't matter that a chastity belt can be cut off with the right tools, any more than a window can be broken if there's a dire need to leave a burning building - in everyday life, both metal and glass act as effective barriers, the disproportionate, undeniable consequences discouraging their destruction.
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you may still be able to masturbate while wearing a chastity belt
It's easy to assume that a chastity belt should thwart any attempt at achieving sexual satisfaction, thanks to how it shields your private parts. That's certainly the case when it comes to vaginal penetration, with suitably snug steel also preventing you receiving oral stimulation too. You can forget engaging in traditional intercourse while belted, there simply not being enough space for a lover to slip much past the close-fitting metal.
If your self-gratification requires similarly shaped toys, you're likely to be out of luck, but it's often possible to get a finger under the front shield of even a correctly sized chastity belt. That's because the curved steel can't follow your body exactly as you bend, there needing to be a compromise between the fit when standing and sitting - let alone the contortions that you might twist yourself into in order to get underneath it! Then there's the fact that vibrations aren't completely deadened by metal, even if they are muffled to an extent - indeed, it may be possible to grind the steel against your groin.
Desperation can drive you to explore even the most unlikely of possibilities, but whether they're enough to get you off depends on a whole host of factors - from the way you usually masturbate to the ease with which you can climax. Every woman is different, some able to achieve orgasm without even touching their genitals, others finding that being belted raises the bar too high. Faced with an awkward battle for a pale shadow of pleasure, you may be sufficiently deterred by the locked metal, especially when there are ways of making a chastity belt more secure against masturbation by sacrificing comfort. The threat of the latter can stop fingers straying, the encumbrance of steel serving as an effective reminder that selfish satisfaction is prohibited - assuming that's part of why you're wearing it.
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you don't have to live like a nun while wearing a chastity belt
The traditional virtue of chastity can certainly be defended with steel, but it's fair to say that most women drawn to denial want more in the way of action than can be found in the cloister. Even when belted, we're sexual beings, with few taking vows to renounce the pleasures of the flesh permanently - however much fun it might be to be frustrated for a while. Nor should swearing off sex, even temporarily, mean that you have to forsake your femininity - you still want to look good when locked in metal, your chastity belt boosting your confidence rather than making you feel you're wearing a frumpy wimple or veil.
Fortunately, steel can be supremely sexy, it only taking the addition of a pair of sheer stockings and a skimpy nightdress to invite some very impure attention! Moreover, a belted woman isn't deprived of her entire body, having many other avenues to satisfaction - not only that of her lover, but her own as well. Some delight in being used in different, sometimes seemingly degrading ways, desperately turned on by having to disregard their personal comfort in favour of their partner's pleasure. Others discover ecstasy in unexpected places, coming to learn that knees and neck can be just as exciting as nipples and thighs when steel obstructs more intimate contact. No mother superior would ever countenance such behaviour from any of her sisters, but locked metal needn't stop a couple's lovemaking, even if does see them get adventurous.
When worn with more modest clothing, a chastity belt lends itself to a classic style, with the flowing dresses and skirts that best hide its presence proving quintessentially feminine. Even beneath the drab uniforms that so many women have to wear to work, metal panties can be considered akin to secretly worn sexy lingerie - indeed, there are adult websites that feature models flaunting chastity belts as they might saucy underwear for the pleasure of men with a penchant for seeing sexy girls locked in steel. If you really want to turn heads, you can combine a chastity belt with something thin and clingy, even wear one on top of tight leggings if that's your thing - but you don't have to show off the sleek lines to feel very attractive and desirable.
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you can't be irresponsible just because you're wearing a chastity belt
The protection that a chastity belt provides can alleviate anxieties, but wearing one doesn't give you carte blanche to be careless. From time to time, high-tech variants are proposed as a means of making women safer, anti-rape underwear receiving brief attention from the media before being forgotten again. Quite apart from the abhorrent suggestion that women should have to wear chastity belts to avoid being assaulted, the idea ignores the many other ways that an attacker can violate a victim. A chastity belt won't stop you being stabbed, any more than it can keep your drink from being spiked or save you from a bag-snatcher. Although the responsibility for such crimes should be placed firmly with the perpetrators, in a world where there are wicked people, you can't afford to be irresponsible - chastity belt or no chastity belt.
Even in a consensual encounter, a chastity belt can only prevent you getting pregnant or catching sexually transmitted diseases to the extent that it stops bodily fluids being shared. You still need to take the necessary precautions if you're engaging in erotic activities - all the more so if you're experimenting with new things alongside your belt. Moreover, a chastity belt brings with it responsibilities of its own - not least the need to pay greater attention to personal hygiene if you're wearing one for any length of time. You can't just abandon the well-being of your crotch to whoever holds the key, still having to keep yourself clean regardless of how difficult the metal may be.
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you don't have to be bad to wear a chastity belt
Some might consider chastity belts as being more appropriate for adulterous wives than virtuous women, perhaps believing that only ladies of the night can benefit from being locked up, not those who are always in their own beds by a sensible time! Others might see heavily tattooed and pierced models in steel and conclude that something similar is not for them, or else be put off by the appearance of chastity belts alongside other restraints, not to mention more aggressive forms of intercourse. If you regard yourself as a good girl, you may not want to go down a road that's going to end with you being helplessly bound while a cruel tormentor makes you gag - however appealing that may be to some.
In truth, a chastity belt is merely a tool, with its meaning entirely up to you and your partner. You can wear a chastity belt to feel virtuous just as much as you can to feel naughty, the difference being solely down to how you perceive the steel. All manner of women wear chastity belts, for all manner of reasons - the metal itself doesn't care, remaining as effective regardless. Later in this book, we'll look at some ways you can spice up your sex life with a chastity belt, as well as accessories that can be added to heighten the thrill of locked steel, but if you're considering wearing one simply to stay pure, you can ignore these along with anything else you're not comfortable with - there's no fixed path you have to follow, with this book merely presenting a variety of ideas.
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you don't have to be a young woman to wear a chastity belt
Thinking of medieval chastity belts might bring to mind images of youthful maidens, but the modern equivalents are worn by women of all ages - as well as many men! You'd never know by looking at the latter's trousers, but a surprising number turn the tables on out-of-date stereotypes by surrendering their manhood to locking devices. A detailed discussion of these is beyond the scope of this book, but a casual search will confirm their popularity among submissive males. Far from being a misogynistic embodiment of mistrust, modern chastity belts bring all manner of loving couples together - whether for the occasional erotically charged evening, or as a longer-term symbol of commitment. So long as you're a consenting adult, you can enjoy being locked, joining the secret ranks of apparently ordinary people who share a love of steel.
Many of these misconceptions may stem from people not seriously considering wearing a chastity belt for real, mentally dismissing the possibility without properly thinking it through. When you stop to do so, however, you'll find it easy to separate the reality of being locked in steel from the many myths that surround the idea, there being nothing magic about such metal. As with anything else, it pays to use your common sense, recognising that not everything you might read is true - especially given the often challenging connotations of female chastity. As a modern woman in the real world, you're a far cry from any medieval maiden that might have appeared on screen or in the pages of an implausible romance, and the sort of chastity belt you might wear is very different too.
