let's learn about lingerie
Preface
Many men are interested in lingerie, but often that interest is more instinctive than intellectual. Even those who are fascinated by female undergarments tend to have little knowledge about them beyond what they like, lacking real understanding about the practicalities that women must consider every day. Other men would also benefit from being educated about bras and panties, and pantyhose and stockings, not to mention shapewear and corsetry, so as to have a better appreciation of what their wives or girlfriends wear.
There are many books that consider the subject of women's intimate attire, but none that are ideally suited to the male student. Often such books are intended more for the coffee table rather than as a course of study, being glossy affairs that are packed with distractingly provocative pictures of garments a far cry from those found in the average lingerie drawer. Some books about lingerie do not treat the subject with sufficient seriousness, instead adopting a giggly tone about unmentionables, as though intimate attire were inherently scandalous. Others seek to prove their worthiness by pandering to passing trends, if not zealously promoting dogmatic beliefs which, however popular presently, will be looked back at by future historians as misguided at best.
let's learn about lingerie seeks to avoid such pitfalls by presenting its subject matter in a no-nonsense way. Detailed, yet dispassionate text is accompanied by simple line drawings that offer no danger of distraction, yet nevertheless help to convey key points clearly and concisely. A man will find little to titillate here, but will instead be asked to consider women's bodies and clothing from a very different perspective. Over the course of twenty-three lessons, the function, features and fitting of garments ranging from bras to cami-knickers will be comprehensively considered, with this book not only aiming to impart a wealth of information, but inviting the reader to really think about lingerie. Each lesson ends with exercises designed to encourage further reflection as well as testing comprehension of the material covered.
If you are a woman merely wanting your husband to have a better understanding of what you wear, you need do nothing more than have him read through the lessons as he might the chapters of any other book. You might use the exercises at the end of each as a basis for subsequent discussion together, stressing the importance of a proper understanding of lingerie by comparison to the mistakes made by the well-meaning but incredibly inept husband who features in some of them. Other exercises call for the consideration of a selection of lingerie, for which you might provide your husband with some of your own, or else permit him to find suitable garments online, perhaps under your supervision so that he doesn't get distracted. However you approach the lessons, you can be sure that your husband will gain from them, not least the knowledge that even everyday garments are less straightforward than they might seem. You certainly don't need to worry about what others might do with this book - indeed, you can turn the page now, and see what your husband will be learning about lingerie.
Similarly, if you are a man who wishes to know more about what women wear, perhaps with a view to being able to shop for lingerie for a special someone without feeling overwhelmed when surrounded by panties and bras, you can turn the page and begin to broaden your knowledge of such garments. Although the details may seem daunting at first, simply showing a desire to understand them is something that should be applauded! As with any subject, you will find that the more that you study, the more things will make sense, but even having a vague awareness of the complexities of lingerie will serve you in good stead.
Some men's interest in lingerie goes beyond enjoying seeing women wearing it, leading to them donning these feminine garments themselves, whether for sexual gratification or to satisfy deeper emotional or psychological needs. Moreover, it is my belief that even men with no inclination towards crossdressing can benefit from wearing lingerie, if only occasionally. At the most basic level, having personal experience of the discomfort that an ill-fitting bra can cause gives a man the ability to empathise with any woman suffering the same, quite apart from encouraging a more submissive state of mind. I discuss the latter aspect further in my other books - in particular, brassièred: a complete guide to brassière discipline and put him in panties - but beyond the following paragraphs, there will be no further mention of men wearing lingerie in these pages.
Nevertheless, if your relationship sees your husband adopting a submissive role, with that perhaps involving him wearing feminine attire, then you will find that let's learn about lingerie offers plenty of possibilities for developing this. A man who will be spending time in a bra and panties might be told to work through a lesson on such garments, being tested on what he has learned before he is permitted to take them off. The open-ended exercises are amenable to being used both as quick-fire questions and as subjects for essays of arbitrary length, allowing a submissive man to be put on the spot, or alternatively, to be kept busy for as long as you desire, either as part of a light-hearted roleplay or more serious discipline. If you are thinking of having your husband add to a lingerie drawer, no matter whose that might be, you might even use this book as preparation for a shopping trip, heightening his anticipation of purchasing women's underwear in addition to making it more likely that he will return home with something that you'll approve of.
I hope that crossdressers who lack anyone to teach them about such feminine matters in person will also find let's learn about lingerie useful, with this book seeking to shine light on aspects of intimate attire that might otherwise remain a mystery. If you are studying alone, you will be rewarded to the extent that you are willing to make an effort, but you will only be cheating yourself if you cut corners. Take your time and really think about the material, then consider the exercises carefully, regardless of whether you see a subject as being relevant to your particular interests. You will find that having a well-rounded knowledge of lingerie will benefit you beyond a greater understanding of the garments you wear yourself, allowing you to better relate to women who wear them too.
However you might use this book, I very much hope that it will make you think!
Emily