Sex is everywhere. Wherever you care to look, you're never very far from this most fundamental of drives, with modern society saturated with suggestions that we should all be having more of it. Whether you turn on a television or flick through the pages of a magazine, you're sure to find plenty to provoke lust, the carnal adventures of celebrities competing with prurient advertisements to attract your attention. When the most intimate of connections is reduced to a mere commodity, it's easy to lose sight of how special sex can be, especially when the resulting desires can be slaked as easily as they are stirred.
Less can be more however. You surely remember the first time you had sex, but can you recall the seventeenth? The latter may have been less awkward, indeed, was probably more pleasurable, but most likely lacked the anticipation that made the former so significant. Imagine if every time had the same build up, because you couldn't get off when you wanted, but instead had to get someone else's permission first - someone who, perhaps unlike your first partner, would make sure that it was worth the wait. Imagine if being prevented from prematurely enjoying the pleasures of your body brought you closer to whoever finally said that you could, as well as making you feel safer and sexier too. Imagine being locked in a chastity belt, and yet loving not having the keys.
Ask the average person to describe a woman wearing a chastity belt, and they'll likely paint a picture of a medieval maiden languishing in a contraption as cruel as it is crude, her private parts imprisoned behind rusty iron while her lord is fighting in some far-off land. Some might let their imaginations wander a little further afield, perhaps conjuring up images of the youngest wife in a Sultan's harem, her beautiful body off-limits to all other men because of the merciless metal that will only come off when he wants to have his way with her. Such ideas might be inspired by the caricatures of chastity belts to be seen in films, or perhaps draw on the unlikely designs presented as curiosities in museums - the likes of Figure 1.1 hardly out of place in a tyrant's dungeon!
Few would suggest a modern businesswoman concealing sleek lines of steel beneath her skirt, the idea that a successful female executive might secretly be locked in a chastity belt seeming preposterous in an age where sexual liberty is taken for granted. Yet a surprising number of women choose to wear chastity belts today, willingly surrendering to contemporary designs for their own satisfaction, not just that of the man who holds the keys. Whether working women or stay at home housewives, all enjoy an exciting secret that adds spice to their lives even when they're not having sex, with the thrills that come from wearing a chastity belt by no means limited to the times when it comes off.
So why might you want to surrender your sex to something that many erroneously believe belongs in the Middle Ages? If you're fascinated by these instruments of frustration, you may well have some feeling for what draws you to being denied, already knowing that the effects of a chastity belt can go far beyond merely preventing penetration. Indeed, the physical limitations of being locked in metal pale in comparison to the psychological consequences of ceding one's sexual freedom, with many women choosing to wear chastity belts as much for how doing so affects their mind as their body. The reasons can be as different as the individuals, but it's not uncommon for a chastity belt to engender:
a sense of submission
Without resorting to drastic measures, a properly fitted chastity belt is impossible to remove while it remains locked. That puts the wearer under the power of whoever possesses the key, something that can be profoundly arousing if you're turned on by submitting to your partner. Whether it's the thrilling helplessness of being trapped in tight metal, the relief that comes from no longer being able to make decisions for yourself, or a resulting obligation to put your partner's pleasure first, a chastity belt can satisfy a craving to be controlled in the same way as being tied to the bed - yet unlike a pair of handcuffs, its restrictions can come with you wherever you go.
a sense of belonging
A chastity belt is a very potent symbol of devotion, the complementary halves of lock and key as meaningful as a pair of wedding rings. No-one seeing the gleaming steel can be in any doubt about its significance, but you don't need to show your belt off to know just how much you belong to another. Indeed, even when you're not together, your man will never be far from your thoughts, with the idea of being so clearly owned proving powerfully exciting if you enjoy being treated as property. Like accepting a collar around your neck, wearing a chastity belt demonstrates a deep commitment, because giving your partner its key is an act that trusts him with much more than just a piece of metal - a trust that he'll reciprocate in the responsibility he must subsequently take for you and your body.
a sense of specialness
Few people leave their houses or cars unlocked, preferring not to take chances with things of high value. Like the reinforced door of a bank vault, a chastity belt confirms that its contents are worth guarding, its protection elevating your sex to the status of priceless treasure. That makes unlocking it for enjoyment a very special occasion, particularly if you have to work for your orgasm, but you'll still require regular care and attention even if your man decides your chastity belt is only coming off for cleaning. Many women feel great pride in being belted, knowing that their femininity is not a forgettable trifle, but a prize so precious as to warrant being secured with steel.
a sense of reassurance
The ever-present embrace of a chastity belt can ease otherwise nagging anxieties, its implacable shield allowing you to feel safe and secure. You don't need to worry about being weak when you've got the strength of steel to support you, nor can you succumb to temptation when you don't have the key. With your fidelity assured beyond question by locked metal, there can be no possibility of doubt or distrust, neither circumstances nor compulsive urges getting the better of you thanks to the steadfastness that a chastity belt guarantees.
a sense of discipline
Chastity belts are superb training tools, providing all the motivation you need to change your behaviour with their capacity for denial and reward. Whether you're seeking to be more selfless, are looking to kick bad habits, or simply need a little extra encouragement to look your best, the unyielding steel is sure to keep you on the straight and narrow. When it's not coming off without your partner's say-so, you'll soon learn to make an effort to please him, even without further locks being added to teach you a lesson in humility. A chastity belt can even help you stick to a diet, its unforgiving framework silently scolding you should you start gaining weight.
a sense of naughtiness
There's something deliciously taboo about wearing a chastity belt, the suggestion that your man might have locked you in metal enough to make mouths fall open in disbelief. That makes secretly wearing one to work an exhilarating affair, its reminder of what awaits you at home sure to liven up even the most tedious of tasks. In the bedroom, a chastity belt adds spice to all manner of games, regardless of whether it comes off in the course of your amorous activities. Whether you like to play the part of a submissive maid who must please her master every way he says, or prefer to get a good seeing to despite being a very naughty pet, steel can really get you in the mood!
a sense of presence
Like a tightly laced corset, a chastity belt makes its presence known, imposing upon your most private of places in a manner that's difficult to dismiss. Its metal asserts itself even under clothing, constantly hugging the crotch even when it's not deflecting any fingers that dare to stray too close to forbidden places. The constant awareness of being controlled can be equal parts challenging and comforting, the feeling of locked steel between your legs capable of taking you on a roller-coaster of emotions. You don't need to actively confront a chastity belt's tight hold to know how you're subject to it, yet succumbing to the call of your crotch will only stress how it stops anything else touching you in a similar way.
a sense of sexiness
Forget crude contraptions knocked together from rusty iron by the village blacksmith - the shiny metal of a modern chastity belt makes for the most alluring of underwear, the gleaming steel stirring desire for what it denies. Like luxurious lingerie, you can give yourself a lift simply by wearing such provocative panties, not needing to share their presence with anyone else in order to feel fabulous. Of course, if you want attention, a chastity belt is sure to command attention, whether you're seeking to seize the spotlight at a costume party, or merely wanting to persuade your partner to play with you.
For some, chastity belts are a bit of fun, a wonderfully frustrating addition to a collection of other toys. For others, they're a serious fetish, satisfying the deepest of desires. There are women who wear them as merely a means to an end, whether that's to show their faithfulness or else keep them from being too selfish, and those who are especially drawn to steel or else harbour a love of locks. Perhaps you have particular reasons of your own, or perhaps you're just curious about what it might be like to wear something so intriguing yourself. Either way, it's never been easier to dip a toe in the water, with chastity belts more readily available today than at any other time in history.
Needless to say, it's not just women who are attracted to the idea of female chastity. Your partner needn't be particularly jealous to enjoy knowing that he alone can partake of what your chastity belt protects, locked metal proving a powerful turn-on to those who like to take charge even briefly in the bedroom. Teasing a sexy girl helplessly trapped in steel can be quite a rush for a red-blooded man, but the trust that's transferred is a two-way street - after all, you're giving him much more than a key. The responsibility that comes with it can be quite profound, a seemingly insignificant addition to your partner's pocket serving to strengthen your relationship even if you merely wear your belt playfully.
Like Robin Hood or the Knights of the Round Table, medieval chastity belts are steeped in legend, the popular understanding of them shaped more by romantic fantasies than historical fact. The caricatures of intimate armour to be seen in movies set in the Middle Ages are a far cry from the sleek designs of today, but the suggestion that a chastity belt must be uncomfortable, bulky and made of rusty iron isn't the only misconception that lingers in the collective consciousness. The idea that women could be locked up and left for months without further attention is another myth that stubbornly persists, as implausible as even a moment's reflection reveals it to be, along with the notion that chastity belts enforce non-consensual control. Sadly, such fallacies are sufficiently widespread as to shape the expectations even of women who want to give female chastity a try, the reality often coming as something of a shock thanks to how it challenges such unfounded presumptions.
You may be surprised to discover that:
you don't have to wear a chastity belt all the time
Popular mythology pictures women being belted just before their husbands went off to war, leaving them little choice but to remain locked up for prolonged periods of time. Yet you don't have to wear a chastity belt for more than a few minutes to have fun with being frustrated, its metal capable of adding to the charge of even the briefest of encounters. A couple of hours stuck in the clutches of steel can leave you sopping wet, turning a dinner date denied into a night to remember, whereas you'll look forward to the evening all the more if you go to work wearing a chastity belt, not needing to wear it for more than the day to appreciate your partner's attentions when you come home.
Shorter spells belted spare you from having to worry about some of the less sexy consequences of wearing a chastity belt, which we'll be discussing in due course, as well as being easier on your body. You don't have to concern yourself as much with keeping your chastity belt clean when it will be coming off sooner rather than later, nor suffer the discomfort that can result from trying to wear one for too long. Indeed, it's naïve to imagine that you can lock sturdy metal around your crotch and just leave it there, with a chastity belt requiring time to become accustomed to - not unlike a steel-boned corset or a pair of stiff stilettos. While it's possible to work up to wearing a chastity belt all the time, doing so requires dedication, metal underwear best worn briefly to begin with.
you can't be made to wear a chastity belt against your will
Being able to remove a chastity belt without the key would seem to defeat its purpose, at least in so far as that's to prevent unauthorised access to your body. The conventional stereotype sees locked metal being as much about stopping faithless wives from willingly going astray as it is about keeping manipulative men from taking advantage of more innocent women, chastity belts being imagined to impose a husband's will whether the wearer likes it or not!
Tales of being trapped in a chastity belt can certainly prove titillating, to the extent that fantasists love to dream up undefeatable contraptions, the loss of the only means of opening them leaving those locked inside condemned to staying chaste for life. In reality, however, even the strongest of safes have their security measured in terms of how long it takes to breach them, there being nothing that one man can make that another can't break given sufficient time and effort. Firefighters who can cut people out of mangled cars aren't going to be stopped by thin strips of metal, however intimate their location - that is, if a capable locksmith doesn't have a say in the matter first.
There may still be bastions of barbarism where women have absolutely no recourse against abusive husbands, but in any remotely civilised society, an approach to the authorities would soon see a chastity belt removed - not to mention the man who imposed it likely to be locked up himself. Of course, that's missing the point, because modern female chastity belts are meant to be worn voluntarily, women willingly accepting the restrictions of steel in exchange for the benefits that being belted brings. That means it doesn't matter that a chastity belt can be cut off with the right tools, any more than a window can be broken if there's a dire need to leave a burning building - in everyday life, both metal and glass act as effective barriers, the disproportionate, undeniable consequences discouraging their destruction.
you may still be able to masturbate while wearing a chastity belt
It's easy to assume that a chastity belt should thwart any attempt at achieving sexual satisfaction, thanks to how it shields your private parts. That's certainly the case when it comes to vaginal penetration, with suitably snug steel also preventing you receiving oral stimulation too. You can forget engaging in traditional intercourse while belted, there simply not being enough space for a lover to slip much past the close-fitting metal.
If your self-gratification requires similarly shaped toys, you're likely to be out of luck, but it's often possible to get a finger under the front shield of even a correctly sized chastity belt. That's because the curved steel can't follow your body exactly as you bend, there needing to be a compromise between the fit when standing and sitting - let alone the contortions that you might twist yourself into in order to get underneath it! Then there's the fact that vibrations aren't completely deadened by metal, even if they are muffled to an extent - indeed, it may be possible to grind the steel against your groin.
Desperation can drive you to explore even the most unlikely of possibilities, but whether they're enough to get you off depends on a whole host of factors - from the way you usually masturbate to the ease with which you can climax. Every woman is different, some able to achieve orgasm without even touching their genitals, others finding that being belted raises the bar too high. Faced with an awkward battle for a pale shadow of pleasure, you may be sufficiently deterred by the locked metal, especially when there are ways of making a chastity belt more secure against masturbation by sacrificing comfort. The threat of the latter can stop fingers straying, the encumbrance of steel serving as an effective reminder that selfish satisfaction is prohibited - assuming that's part of why you're wearing it.
you don't have to live like a nun while wearing a chastity belt
The traditional virtue of chastity can certainly be defended with steel, but it's fair to say that most women drawn to denial want more in the way of action than can be found in the cloister. Even when belted, we're sexual beings, with few taking vows to renounce the pleasures of the flesh permanently - however much fun it might be to be frustrated for a while. Nor should swearing off sex, even temporarily, mean that you have to forsake your femininity - you still want to look good when locked in metal, your chastity belt boosting your confidence rather than making you feel you're wearing a frumpy wimple or veil.
Fortunately, steel can be supremely sexy, it only taking the addition of a pair of sheer stockings and a skimpy nightdress to invite some very impure attention! Moreover, a belted woman isn't deprived of her entire body, having many other avenues to satisfaction - not only that of her lover, but her own as well. Some delight in being used in different, sometimes seemingly degrading ways, desperately turned on by having to disregard their personal comfort in favour of their partner's pleasure. Others discover ecstasy in unexpected places, coming to learn that knees and neck can be just as exciting as nipples and thighs when steel obstructs more intimate contact. No mother superior would ever countenance such behaviour from any of her sisters, but locked metal needn't stop a couple's lovemaking, even if does see them get adventurous.
When worn with more modest clothing, a chastity belt lends itself to a classic style, with the flowing dresses and skirts that best hide its presence proving quintessentially feminine. Even beneath the drab uniforms that so many women have to wear to work, metal panties can be considered akin to secretly worn sexy lingerie - indeed, there are adult websites that feature models flaunting chastity belts as they might saucy underwear for the pleasure of men with a penchant for seeing sexy girls locked in steel. If you really want to turn heads, you can combine a chastity belt with something thin and clingy, even wear one on top of tight leggings if that's your thing - but you don't have to show off the sleek lines to feel very attractive and desirable.
you can't be irresponsible just because you're wearing a chastity belt
The protection that a chastity belt provides can alleviate anxieties, but wearing one doesn't give you carte blanche to be careless. From time to time, high-tech variants are proposed as a means of making women safer, anti-rape underwear receiving brief attention from the media before being forgotten again. Quite apart from the abhorrent suggestion that women should have to wear chastity belts to avoid being assaulted, the idea ignores the many other ways that an attacker can violate a victim. A chastity belt won't stop you being stabbed, any more than it can keep your drink from being spiked or save you from a bag-snatcher. Although the responsibility for such crimes should be placed firmly with the perpetrators, in a world where there are wicked people, you can't afford to be irresponsible - chastity belt or no chastity belt.
Even in a consensual encounter, a chastity belt can only prevent you getting pregnant or catching sexually transmitted diseases to the extent that it stops bodily fluids being shared. You still need to take the necessary precautions if you're engaging in erotic activities - all the more so if you're experimenting with new things alongside your belt. Moreover, a chastity belt brings with it responsibilities of its own - not least the need to pay greater attention to personal hygiene if you're wearing one for any length of time. You can't just abandon the well-being of your crotch to whoever holds the key, still having to keep yourself clean regardless of how difficult the metal may be.
you don't have to be bad to wear a chastity belt
Some might consider chastity belts as being more appropriate for adulterous wives than virtuous women, perhaps believing that only ladies of the night can benefit from being locked up, not those who are always in their own beds by a sensible time! Others might see heavily tattooed and pierced models in steel and conclude that something similar is not for them, or else be put off by the appearance of chastity belts alongside other restraints, not to mention more aggressive forms of intercourse. If you regard yourself as a good girl, you may not want to go down a road that's going to end with you being helplessly bound while a cruel tormentor makes you gag - however appealing that may be to some.
In truth, a chastity belt is merely a tool, with its meaning entirely up to you and your partner. You can wear a chastity belt to feel virtuous just as much as you can to feel naughty, the difference being solely down to how you perceive the steel. All manner of women wear chastity belts, for all manner of reasons - the metal itself doesn't care, remaining as effective regardless. Later in this book, we'll look at some ways you can spice up your sex life with a chastity belt, as well as accessories that can be added to heighten the thrill of locked steel, but if you're considering wearing one simply to stay pure, you can ignore these along with anything else you're not comfortable with - there's no fixed path you have to follow, with this book merely presenting a variety of ideas.
you don't have to be a young woman to wear a chastity belt
Thinking of medieval chastity belts might bring to mind images of youthful maidens, but the modern equivalents are worn by women of all ages - as well as many men! You'd never know by looking at the latter's trousers, but a surprising number turn the tables on out-of-date stereotypes by surrendering their manhood to locking devices. A detailed discussion of these is beyond the scope of this book, but a casual search will confirm their popularity among submissive males. Far from being a misogynistic embodiment of mistrust, modern chastity belts bring all manner of loving couples together - whether for the occasional erotically charged evening, or as a longer-term symbol of commitment. So long as you're a consenting adult, you can enjoy being locked, joining the secret ranks of apparently ordinary people who share a love of steel.
Many of these misconceptions may stem from people not seriously considering wearing a chastity belt for real, mentally dismissing the possibility without properly thinking it through. When you stop to do so, however, you'll find it easy to separate the reality of being locked in steel from the many myths that surround the idea, there being nothing magic about such metal. As with anything else, it pays to use your common sense, recognising that not everything you might read is true - especially given the often challenging connotations of female chastity. As a modern woman in the real world, you're a far cry from any medieval maiden that might have appeared on screen or in the pages of an implausible romance, and the sort of chastity belt you might wear is very different too.
The form of a female chastity belt follows its function, and although the details may differ between designs, all share the same fundamental features. We'll be considering these more closely in the next chapter, but for now, let's look at the various parts in broader terms. The style of chastity belt shown in Figure 1.2 is reasonably common, with similar being available both custom-made and mass-produced. It consists of the following components:
Putting the “belt” in “chastity belt”, this band of steel either encircles the waist or sits around the hips. Having enough flexibility to be opened, it has holes that are used to hold its ends together when the belt is secured, sometimes several to allow its size to be adjusted - Figure 1.3 illustrates a waist band being fastened in the middle. To prevent the edges of the metal from irritating the skin, it is usually lined with a softer rubber such as silicone or neoprene.
This is the part of the belt that actually does the business, following the curve of the body down from the waist band to under the crotch. The section that enforces chastity is more complicated than you might think, generally consisting of two separate parts. The primary shield hugs the groin, but is slotted to allow the labia to protrude without being squashed. The secondary shield prevents anything from taking advantage of this opening, while still allowing the passage of liquid through its pattern of holes. In Figure 1.4, the larger holes permit the shields to be attached to each other and other components. Again, the steel is lined where it it likely to press against the skin.
Depending on the design, the back of a chastity belt may consist of a coated wire that sits between the buttocks (as is the case in Figure 1.5), a similarly positioned strip with a strategically placed opening, or else a pair of chains that follow the curve of the cheeks. Attaching to the back of the waist band, all styles of rear help to hold the crotch shield in place thanks to completing a half circle under the body, with some also preventing penetration too.
A chastity belt wouldn't be more than a cumbersome pair of panties without a lock to prevent it being removed without the key. Holding the ends of the waist band and crotch shield together on a central post, the lock may be protected by surrounding metal, perhaps with its shackle sitting in a recess or surrounded by a guard to make it harder to attack. Some belts feature regular padlocks, such as that illustrated in Figure 1.6, whereas others have more complicated mechanisms that require special tools to undo. In addition to the main lock, there may be another securing the secondary shield, allowing it to be removed separately from the belt itself.
All these pieces come together to form a formidable framework that will frustrate any attempt at unauthorised access. Despite having common features, however, chastity belts are very individual items, needing to closely conform to the body if they're to be effective. Just as differently shaped women wouldn't wear identical bras, but would instead opt for styles that suit their particular figures, so too is it important to choose the sort of chastity belt that will work best for you - all the more so for how they're made of metal rather than material. That means understanding a little more about the differences in design, a subject to which we'll be turning in the next chapter.