brassièred
Chapter 6: How do I use wearing a bra as a punishment?
Many women, quite understandably, feel rather uneasy about the idea of inflicting punishment upon a man they love dearly. The very words conjure up images of cruel leather-clad dominatrices whipping grovelling naked slaves to satisfy their insatiable lust for degrading men, with no regard for how this may affect the men in question. It cannot be stressed enough how far removed the loving practice of brassière discipline is from such stereotypical ideas of sadomasochism, even when having to wear a bra is used as a punishment. Its purpose is not to wantonly hurt or humiliate your husband without reason, but rather to help foster a kinder, more considerate side to the man you love, keeping him from succumbing to temptation or developing bad habits. Just as one must scold a child who has been playing with matches, or a dog that jumps aggressively at strangers, so too must one occasionally discipline an errant husband. Like the fire-lighting child or the antisocial dog, your husband is unlikely to enjoy such a punishment at the time, but can only benefit from it in the long run.
It would be easy for a man who is new to brassière discipline to regard having to wear any kind of bra for any length of time as a punishment simply because it is not something he would otherwise choose to do. Whilst it is possible to adopt such an approach, something that is easily done without thinking by a wife starting to bra train her husband, this is not without its pitfalls. Many women new to the idea of brassière discipline do not initially intend their husband to be brassièred for any length of time, but discover that the more he wears a bra, the more they prefer him to do so, thanks to the beneficial effect it has on his behaviour. A man who has been consistently taught that wearing a bra should be regarded as a punishment is likely to feel demoralised and rejected in such a situation, feeling that he is being constantly punished without doing anything to deserve it.
It is important, therefore, to draw a clear distinction between having him wear a bra on an everyday basis and having him wear a bra as a consequence of particular behaviour. The distinction should be stressed regularly such that your husband is never in any doubt as to why he is wearing a certain bra at any given time. This is of particular importance when transitioning from using brassière wear in a certain situation as an isolated punishment to making wearing a bra in the same situation a more regular occurrence. A man who has been told “I want you to wear a bra today to make up for coming home late from the pub last night. You wouldn't have behaved so thoughtlessly if you'd been wearing a bra, you know. Hurry up and put it on!” knows exactly what he has done to warrant such a punishment, and precisely what he should avoid doing if he does not want to suffer a similar fate in the future. If, at a later date, the same man is told “I'd like you to start wearing a bra more regularly, dear. You've done nothing wrong, but you're so much kinder and more thoughtful when you wearing one”, then he knows exactly where he stands without wondering what he may have done to deserve being brassièred. Such a man could then be told “You'll be wearing this padded bra today because of how rude you were yesterday”, and would understand that the padded bra was a punishment whilst his regular brassière was not.
Bearing all of the above in mind, therefore, there are three factors that may be used to distinguish a punishment brassière from one that is merely intended for regular wear:
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make him wear a bra in a situation he would otherwise not have to
For a man who has never been brassièred before, simply having to wear a bra at all can prove punishment enough, even for just an hour around the house. Similarly, a man who has only ever worn a bra in private will hate being taken out shopping whilst brassièred, and a man who is used to wearing a bra in front of strangers will hardly relish having to wear one to work for a day. Even a man who wears a brassière to work every day is unlikely to have a good night's sleep if he is not permitted to take his bra off before he goes to bed. Unless your husband is already brassièred twenty four hours a day, it is always possible to punish him by making him wear a bra in situations in which he would otherwise expect to remain braless. Depending on the extent to which your husband is already brassièred, you may choose to do so for a specific length of time, or for a specific situation which he is likely to find uncomfortable.
Such punishments are particularly useful if you wish to gradually acclimatize your husband to wearing a brassière more often than he does at present. A man who is suddenly told that he must wear a bra to work every day without having done so before is more likely to balk at the idea than one who has gradually become accustomed to doing so as a result of occasional punishments. Whilst the former might blame his wife for what he perceives to be her sudden and unreasonable demands, the latter is more likely to blame his own misbehaviour for warranting being punished in such a way. Should he then be asked to wear a bra to work on a regular basis, his previous experience doing so from time to time makes such a request much less of an issue than it might otherwise be.
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make him wear a bra that is more uncomfortable than usual
It is difficult to ignore any garment that is irritating or uncomfortable to wear, and the brassière is no exception. The constant reminder that is provided by a particularly uncomfortable bra makes such a choice ideal for emphasising your husband's discipline, something that is vital if he is to be discouraged from misbehaving in future. Unable to forget the nagging presence around his chest, his thoughts will be repeatedly drawn back to whatever he has done to warrant such discomfort. If his brassière is such that he finds himself counting down the minutes until he will be released from it, you can be sure that he will have had ample time to reflect upon how he should behave in future.
As many women know, it is difficult to find a well-fitting brassière at the best of times, thanks to the many ways in which an otherwise perfect bra can ultimately prove to be insufferable. It is not hard to imagine how much more uncomfortable a brassière can become if it has been deliberately selected with this intention. We will be looking at ways in which one can do so shortly, but if your husband's lingerie drawer already contains a number of bras, the chances are there is at least one that he dislikes wearing more than the others. Your husband is unlikely to complain if that bra is reserved for punishment purposes - until, that is, he next finds himself being punished!
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make him wear a bra that is more visible than usual
If your husband has become accustomed to wearing a brassière in public, he will be acutely aware of the factors that affect how easily it may be kept hidden, which, as discussed in an earlier chapter, depend heavily on choosing the right kind of bra to begin with. Should your husband require punishing, you can make his life harder by denying him any leniences in this matter. Even quite modest changes to the style of a man's bra can result in a nerve-racking time for him, with a brassière that does not lend itself to being easily hidden bringing about a constant anxiety about its possible discovery, making it impossible for the wearer to forget exactly how and why he is being disciplined.
Subtly making his bra more visible will still allow him to go out in public, albeit more gingerly, but more obvious changes may be used to prevent him from leaving the house at all. If the presence of his brassière simply cannot be denied, as is the case if its cups are heavily padded, your husband is unlikely to want to court the inevitable public humiliation of being seen wearing it, making such a choice ideal as a punishment bra. It is not just those around him who will be unable to ignore a highly visible brassière - your husband will also have difficulty forgetting its presence, once again serving to emphasis the inevitable consequences of his previous misbehaviour.
For such discipline to be effective, it is vital that your husband submits to his bra punishment completely and unconditionally, understanding exactly what he has done to deserve such discipline. Needless to say, he must not be allowed to remove his punishment bra under any circumstances until he has served his time wearing it, however displeasurable he may find that to be. Securing his bra against tampering is thus essential if he is to wear it in your absence, but even around the house, it is extremely psychologically effective for him to be locked into his brassière for the duration of his punishment, particularly if he is expected to offer a full and contrite apology prior to being released.
We shall now look at various ways in which a brassière may be used specifically for punishment purposes, rather than for mere everyday wear. You may also find it useful to reread the chapter of this guide that discusses how to hide the tell-tale signs of a bra, with a view to making doing so more difficult for your husband, as well as the chapter concerning enhancing the male bra wearer's breasts, something that is ideally suited for use in disciplining an errant husband.
Make him wear a bra in particular situations
Depending on the extent to which your husband is already brassièred, you may choose to punish him by making him wear a bra at times when he would not normally do so. If your husband has a tendency to misbehave in particular situations, for instance, it is those situations that are best suited for his brassière discipline. The tightness around his chest, coupled with the fear of discovery, will help to remind him of his previous misdemeanours and keep him from repeating his mistakes, knowing that to do so would warrant further brassière punishment. Another approach is to make him wear a bra in situations he is already likely to find particularly stressful, where the presence of his brassière will be even more troublesome than usual. Doing so combines the two in a way that your husband will find much more unpleasant than either by itself, resulting in a punishment he will do his utmost to avoid in future. You may, for instance, wish to consider:
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make him wear a bra when he goes out drinking
If you're tired of waiting up at night for your husband to stumble drunkenly home from the pub, put him in a bra before he goes out - ideally one that requires a little effort to keep it from showing. If you point out that he won't be able to hide it when he's drunk, you can be sure he won't be drinking too much that evening - the shame of revealing his embarrassing secret to his drinking mates would be too great for him to even consider doing so.
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make him wear a bra when he goes driving
If your husband drives recklessly or aggressively, without regard for other motorists, and you're worried that one day he'll have an accident as a result, make him wear a bra before he gets in the car. He won't relish the thought of being arrested whilst wearing women's underwear, and will thus drive slower and more considerately, his brassière regularly reminding him of the need to show courtesy to fellow drivers if he doesn't want to explain it to the law.
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make him wear a bra to a dinner party
If your husband flirts with other women more than you would like, perhaps getting a little too “touchy-feely” with them, have him wear a bra to such social occasions. He won't want anyone hugging him once he knows that anyone who feels his back will be able to tell exactly what he has on underneath his dinner jacket! It doesn't matter if someone does - men tend not to hug each other, and any woman who does so will receive a clear and unambiguous signal that your husband is off-limits as far as she is concerned.
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make him wear a bra when visiting his mother in law
If your husband and your mother do not get on particularly well, something that is sadly the case in many marriages, it's likely that he finds visiting her to be quite a stressful experience. Consider how much more stressful it would be for him, therefore, if he was wearing a bra for the duration - not knowing whether you've chosen to share with her the details of his discipline, he'll be constantly wondering if she already knows about the humiliating attire his wife makes him wear.
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make him wear a bra to go shopping together
If, like many men, your husband does not particularly enjoy going shopping with you, choosing to grumble and complain about having to be there rather than showing an interest in what you're looking for, a brassière is just the ticket to sort him out. He'll become meek and submissive in its feminine embrace, making for a much pleasanter shopping companion, and if you feel like teasing him, there's no reason why you can't go shopping for lingerie together - for you, or for him!
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make him wear a bra for a romantic dinner
If your husband has failed to show you the attention you deserve, have him make things up by treating you to a romantic dinner for two at an expensive restaurant. You'll be the centre of his attention that evening, particularly if you spice up his meal a little by keeping him brassièred throughout. Why not finish the evening off with a similarly spicy dessert - in the bedroom?
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make him wear a bra to an important business meeting
If your husband has a tendency to put his job before his marriage, blaming important meetings for his habit of coming home late from the office without warning you in advance, some time in a brassière will help cure him of such inconsiderate behaviour. He'll find dealing with clients, particularly those of the female variety, far less appealing if he's made to wear a bra under his suit whilst doing so.
Even if your husband is already brassièred for most of the day, there is no reason you cannot have him wear a different bra for those situations in which you wish to emphasize his discipline. A brassière that is uncomfortable to wear or difficult to hide will have a similar effect on a man who used to wearing bras as a regular brassière would on a man who has never worn one before.
Make him wear a bra that is too tight
The simplest and most effective way to make your husband's bra wearing more uncomfortable is to have him wear a brassière that is too tight, which in the context of male bra wear means one that has a smaller band size than normal, the cup size being irrelevant for most men. Wearing such a bra will soon become very irritating, causing the man unfortunate enough to be trapped inside to want to endlessly fiddle with it in a vain attempt at obtaining relief. Worn in a public setting, the man in question is in quite a predicament, knowing that any attempt at adjusting his brassière must be done in private so as to avoid the risk of discovery, yet at the same time longing to relieve his discomfort.
Most bras have several sets of eyes with which to fasten them, and if your husband normally wears his on the loosest of these, you may choose simply to insist on a tighter choice to make his brassière less comfortable. Generally, however, it is better to use a smaller sized bra for punishment purposes - not only does this remove any temptation your husband may have to loosen his torment, but it also serves to make a clear distinction between his punishment brassière and those he wears more regularly. A two inch reduction in band size is usually quite sufficient for this purpose, although a four inch reduction may be more appropriate for a harsher punishment. Some care should be taken to avoid excessively tight brassières, which can cause medical conditions such as trapped nerves if worn for too long - it is important that your husband should be allowed to raise any legitimate concerns he may have regarding this, provided they are more than just an unwillingness to accept his punishment.
Longline bras are ideally suited for use in this way, as are basques, particularly those with additional boning to help mould the figure. The extra length of such foundation garments serves to constrict much more of the upper body, with an effect that is not dissimilar to wearing a modestly laced corset. If your husband already has slight breasts of his own, you may find that a suitably chosen basque or longline brassière enhances them further, with its tight embrace causing his body fat to be pushed up and out into its cups, again in a not dissimilar manner to a corset. Figure 6.1 shows a basque being used for this purpose.
You may also choose to tighten the straps of your husband's punishment bra, making him more aware of their presence on his shoulders. This will pull the body of the bra up towards his armpits, and may also give a slight lift to any natural breasts he may have. You may find it necessary to sew the straps in place to prevent them lengthening again, either gradually through wear or as a result of a more deliberate adjustment on his part.
Make his bra straps difficult to manage
As discussed in an earlier chapter, men have much more of a problem than women when it comes to keeping bra straps on their shoulders - not only does the bra wearing man find his straps slip more often than the woman for whom the brassière was intended, but he has far fewer opportunities to safely reposition them when they do. Consider, therefore, a brassière whose straps are disinclined to stay on the shoulders for any length of time, insisting on slipping down the arms at the slightest provocation. A man made to wear a bra with such errant straps will have a terrible time keeping it hidden, particularly if he must do so under a short sleeved shirt or T-shirt.
Such a torment may be constructed by taking a brassière that has a much tighter band than your husband would ordinarily wear, then restoring the band to a more appropriate length by means of bra extenders. These are short lengths of band with additional hooks and eyes which are readily available from many lingerie outlets and haberdasheries - one is shown in Figure 6.2a. Although such a bra is no tighter than usual, the bra extenders have the peculiar side-effect of moving the straps away from the centre of the body, making it much easier for them to fall from the shoulders without warning, as Figures 6.2b and 6.2c clearly demonstrate. Such a brassière poses quite a predicament for any man in a public situation where he cannot easily adjust his bra straps.
Alternatively, a bra with detachable straps may have the straps relocated by means of additional loops of ribbon sewn into the band of bra, allowing the degree of infuriation caused by them to be fine-tuned to your satisfaction. Making the straps slightly looser than they would otherwise be also increases their propensity to slip, although again you may find it necessary to sew them in place to prevent undesirable meddling.
Make his bra cups fuller
An entire chapter of this guide is devoted to ways in which your husband's breasts may be enhanced, and consequently, we shall not be going into too much detail here. Suffice to say, making his brassière fulfil its intended purpose, that is to say, supporting the breasts, is something that most men forced to wear a bra find intensely humiliating and uncomfortable, and is thus extremely effective as a form of brassière punishment.
Not only does padding out your husband's bra make it less comfortable for him to wear, it also makes it more noticeable, both to your husband and to those around him. Figure 6.3 illustrates a couple of the possibilities. A heavily padded brassière gives him an understanding of what it is like to have to wear a bra for support, as well as making it difficult for him to leave the house without risking the shame of being seen wearing such embarrassing attire. Such a brassière is ideal if your husband has chores that must be done around the house, as he won't be going anywhere else wearing it!
Conversely, a lightly padded bra may still be worn in public, despite any protestations your husband may make to the contrary. Provided the amount of padding used is not excessive, it is unlikely that anyone will give it more than an occasional second glance, let alone recognise it for what it actually is. Nevertheless, the psychological effect can be quite disproportionate, leading to a heightened state of anxiety in your husband, who may well be convinced that everyone is staring at his breasts. It should go without saying that this makes for a superb punishment technique.
Make him wear a bra under a thin white top
We have previous discussed the right kind of clothing to wear if one wishes to keep a brassière hidden, namely several layers of thick, loose material, ideally featuring prominent patterns or textures. If your husband's behaviour requires correction, however, there is no reason not to look at the other end of the clothing spectrum. Of all the clothes likely to be found in a man's wardrobe, perhaps the worst for the brassièred husband is a thin white shirt, of the kind that might be worn for business meetings. Needless to say, your husband is unlikely to want to attend any meetings if he is brassièred under such a shirt, as it does absolutely nothing to hide his humiliating underwear, which is painfully visible through the thin material, as Figure 6.4 shows.
A similar effect may be achieved with a plain white T-shirt, particularly one that is tight enough to mould itself to the shape of your husband's body. For a more intense punishment, a fitted ladies blouse is exceptionally well suited to highlighting your husband's brassière, with its lines catching the eye and drawing them to the outline of his bra underneath. Regardless of which you choose, however, provided the material of the garment in question is sufficiently thin, even the colour of your husband's bra will be readily apparent to all around him. An everyday white brassière is quite sufficient in this respect, but a black one is doubly effective! Few women, let alone any men, would choose to wear such a combination unless they intended to draw everyone's attention to it as a means of making a fashion statement.
There are several ways in which this may be used as a punishment. Merely the threat of having to wear such an obvious brassière should be sufficient to bring an errant husband back in line. An interesting technique is to have him wear a thick sweater or a coat on top of such an outfit when going out. It should be readily apparent that his embarrassing secret will remain safe from discovery only as long as he keeps the coat or sweater on, allowing you to threaten to remove it if he misbehaves. The ever-present concern than you may actually do so, leaving his black brassière plainly visible, and the public humiliation that would immediately follow, should be more than enough to keep him in his place. If the weather is warm, you can tease him by asking “Aren't you hot in that coat, dear?” or “Wouldn't you be more comfortable if you took your sweater off, darling?”, to which he will most likely bluster and stammer, particularly in front of people who have no idea why he is so reluctant to comply.
Alternatively, a black bra under a thin white shirt is ideal for him to wear around the house, particularly if your husband is denied access to any other clothes with which to hide his predicament. Making him answer the door whilst wearing such an outfit is a particularly embarrassing humiliation for a man to have to endure, but there is no reason why he shouldn't - after all, he is fully dressed! Whether it be a cosmetics saleswoman or friends of yours who are aware of his brassière discipline, his face is sure to burn with shame at having to invite them in, let alone if the caller turns out to be another man!
Make him wear a bra as outerwear
Another delightful way of emphasizing your husband's brassière is to make him wear it on top of his normal clothing. This is best achieved using contrasting colours, for example, making him wear a white bra over a black T-shirt, causing any lace or other details to be highlighted against the darker background, as is demonstrated in Figure 6.5. To enhance the effect further, have him wear a second, plain padded brassière underneath - one with moulded cups is ideal. This will serve to give him the appearance of having breasts by invisibly filling the cups of the outer bra.
Make him wear only a bra
In the privacy of your own home, you are free to have your husband wear whatever takes your fancy, without any of the concerns you might have if he were to be going out in public so dressed. With no-one to be offended by your husband's attire, there's nothing that says he has to wear anything to cover his brassière - indeed, keeping it openly displayed is an excellent way to remind him of its presence, particularly if it is weighed down with realistic breast forms. To keep him from forgetting what he is wearing, you can snap his exposed bra straps from time to time and tease him about how pretty he looks in such feminine underwear. If it is too cold for him to wear just a bra, you may allow him to wear a low cut strappy top as well, which will do little to hide what's underneath and still allow you the amusement of snapping his straps.
In warmer weather, you may choose to emphasize your husband's bra discipline by not allowing him to wear any other clothes for the duration of his punishment, keeping him completely naked apart from his brassière, perhaps adding matching lingerie if you prefer. Spending time around the house wearing nothing but a lacy bra and knickers, not to mention stockings and suspenders, is especially embarrassing and humiliating for a man, particularly if he is expected to perform household chores while so dressed - Figure 6.6 illustrates just two of the ways a brassièred husband may be put to good use. It is not uncommon for a man to become involuntarily aroused in such a situation, something that, to his shame, will be impossible for him to hide, but highly entertaining for those around him. By stressing his vulnerability in this way, you reinforce your husband's submissive position in your relationship, and provided his regular wardrobe is kept under lock and key, you can be sure that he won't be going anywhere else in a hurry.