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brassièred: a complete guide to brassière discipline

Chapter 5: How do I make sure he wears a bra when I'm not there?

One of the challenges that many women face when starting brassière discipline is how to ensure their husband remains suitably brassièred without having to keep a constant eye on him. Some of the greatest benefits gained from making your husband wear a bra result directly from its role as a surrogate in your absence, reminding him of your pivotal role in his life at times when he might otherwise be tempted to misbehave or even be unfaithful - after all, he is unlikely to get up to anything untoward with his secretary in your presence!

Many men are, however, initially quite reluctant to wear a brassière for any longer than they have to. The transition to wearing a bra at work can be particularly difficult in this respect - it is not unusual for a brassièred husband to harbour the mistaken belief that he may remove his bra shortly after leaving the house for work in the morning, remain braless throughout the day, and provided he is appropriately attired by the time he returns home in the evening, no-one need be any the wiser. Needless to say, any man who believes his wife would be so naive as to fall for such a transparent ruse is in for a rude awakening!

The beneficial effects of brassière training must not be allowed to be undermined by an errant husband's attempts to avoid having to wear his bras by secretly removing them in the absence of your guiding presence. Fortunately, such trickery is easily detected. Like any other undergarment, a brassière that has been worn all day will absorb sweat, dirt and bodily odour, and will smell quite differently from a bra that has been worn briefly but has otherwise spent most of the day in a drawer or a briefcase. Moreover, unless the bra in question is particularly loose, it will leave marks on the skin where it has pressed in. If you have any suspicion that your husband may have removed his bra, simply look him firmly in the eye, and ask him directly whether he has worn it all day as instructed. A recalcitrant husband may bluster or stammer, but will find it impossible to hide the truth when so confronted.

It is imperative that you deal with such disobedience immediately, in order to reinforce the message that how, when and where your husband wears a bra is not something that he should expect to have any control over, being entirely your decision. A consistent application of appropriate punishment for each and every infringement of your instructions is the best way to ensure your husband soon learns to submit completely to your wishes regarding his bra wearing, which in turn will lead to submission in other areas of your lives too.

To reduce the temptation to remove his bra without permission, there are a variety of techniques that can be employed to make it harder to take off a brassière without leaving traces of having done so. Regrettably, it is virtually impossible to prevent a brassière from being removed if its wearer does not care about damaging or destroying it in the process, and thus these techniques should be regarded as tamper-evident rather than tamper-proof. Thankfully, the vast majority of brassièred husbands do not resort to such extremes, as they realise that to do so would result in an extremely angry wife! In the unlikely event that your husband does behave in such an outrageous manner, it is imperative that he should be punished particularly severely, such that he learns that, however much he might hate wearing a bra, it is by far the lesser of two evils. He will be unlikely to make the same mistake twice once he has suffered the humiliation of having to spend his hard earned money purchasing a particularly expensive replacement which will serve as his only attire around the house for the following week, for instance.

Generally, however, it is sufficient merely to ensure that your husband will be unable to deny any attempt to remove his brassière without your permission. If he knows that he cannot take his bra off without you finding out, and moreover, that he will be punished if you do discover that he has removed it, he will have much less of an incentive to disobey your instructions regarding when and where he should wear a brassière. There are a number of techniques by which this may be achieved, ranging in effectiveness and ease of implementation, to which we shall turn to shortly.

Perhaps the most effective way of avoiding this problem, however, is to delay the transition to full-time brassière wear until you are sure that your husband has accepted that he must wear a bra as a fact of life before putting him in a position where he may be tempted to remove it. A man who goes from never having worn a brassière before to being immediately expected to wear one on a full-time basis will obviously balk more at the idea than a man who has grown used to having to wear a bra around the house. If your train your husband gradually and incrementally, any rebelliousness can be dealt with while his brassière wearing is entirely in your presence, allowing him to progress to full-time bra wear with fewer problems.

Coloured thread

Figure 5.1: Sewing a brassière closed is cheap and simple, but remarkably effective at preventing your husband removing it without your knowledge, let alone approval.

By far the simplest method of securing a brassière is to sew it closed. Using a needle, a short length of thread may be used to prevent the hook and eye closure of the brassière from being opened. In order to remove the bra, the thread must be broken. Consequently, if the thread is still intact when your husband returns from work, there are reasonable grounds for assuming that he has remained suitably brassièred throughout the day. For additional security, the thread may also be sewn through outer garments such as a shirt, making it nigh-on impossible to remove them without breaking it.

To prevent a devious husband from unpicking the thread and sewing it back later, the ends should be trimmed short once knotted in place. Although Figure 5.1 uses white thread for clarity, it is better to use an obscure shade of pink, to frustrate a particularly crafty husband from buying an alternative spool to use as a replacement. Your husband is unlikely to want to show his sewn up brassière to a haberdasher in order to match the colour you have chosen, and should he remove the thread instead, he has but one day to find an exact match or face the consequences. Make sure to keep the spool of thread in a safe place to prevent him pilfering replacement thread, and for additional security, choose a different colour of thread at random each day.

Advantages

  • Cheap

  • No work required to make

  • Easily hidden under clothing

Disadvantages

  • Psychologically weak

  • Threading a needle each morning can be tedious

Figure 5.2: To avoid the tedious task of threading a needle each time, two small rings have been sewn into this brassière, allowing it to be easily tied closed.

Examining a brassière carefully, it should be readily observed that it is relatively straightforward to unpick the stitching near the eyes on one side and the hooks on the other to allow additional fastenings to be sewn into the bra itself. In Figure 5.2, two small rings have been inserted in this manner, allowing coloured thread to be passed through them without requiring any needle to be threaded. However, it is not necessary to go to such lengths if you are not particularly handy with a needle, as one may simply sew the rings to the outside of the bra with a few loops of the same coloured thread used to tie them together. Either way, the time spent adding such rings is soon repaid if your husband's bra must be secured every morning.

Advantages

  • No needle required to fit

Disadvantages

  • Time consuming to make

Numbered seals

Figure 5.3: Each plastic padlock is uniquely numbered, making it impossible to replace once removed - an ideal discouragement for a husband tempted to tamper.

Using a similar technique to that outlined above, two short loops of pink ribbon have been sewn into the brassière shown in Figure 5.3, allowing it to be secured with a uniquely numbered tamper-evident seal. Such seals, also known as "plastic padlocks", may be readily purchased from a variety of online outlets, although they can be expensive if not bought in bulk. Once fastened in place, the seal cannot be removed without breaking its plastic loop, and thanks to the unique numbering, it cannot be replaced with a substitute, allowing any attempts at tampering to be easily detected.

Some care should be taken to ensure the loops of ribbon used are of an appropriate length, being long enough to allow the seal to be closed without disrupting the normal hook and eye fastening of the bra, yet short enough to hold the seal in place without too much slack. A choice must also be made as to which set of eyes will be used to fasten the brassière, although it is quite feasible to fit additional loops of ribbon to allow the decision to be made later. If the thought of so much sewing does not appeal, it is not unreasonable to have your husband do it instead, on the grounds that they are his brassières, and would not need securing if he could be trusted to wear them properly.

Advantages

  • Psychologically effective

  • Impossible to replace once opened

  • Relatively easy to hide under clothing

Disadvantages

  • Time consuming to make

  • One-use seals cannot be reused and are expensive

Padlocks

Figure 5.4: Being kept under lock and key is psychologically very significant for the brassièred husband, however small the lock in question may be.

The psychological impact of using a solid metal padlock to secure a brassière cannot be underestimated. There is something about being trapped inside a bra under lock and key that reinforces beyond anything else the inescapability of your husband's bra discipline. In truth, using such a padlock is sadly not that much more secure than any of the other methods previously discussed, but the connotations of strength and security that surround a padlock mean that your husband is much less likely to even try to remove it, and much more likely just to resign himself to his brassièred fate. Figure 5.4 clearly demonstrates this effect.

For additional effect, you may choose to keep the key to the bra nestled in your own cleavage, emphasising the connection between your own breasts and your husband's brassière. To reinforce the psychological impact of the padlock, it may prove beneficial to develop routines around locking and unlocking your husband. You may, for example, choose to put the padlock in place yourself, but expect your husband to be the one to snap its clasp shut, effectively locking himself into a brassière for the day. Similarly, an elaborate ritual for slowly and deliberately extracting the key from within your own bra, before having your husband stand quite still for the actual unlocking, will strengthen his understanding that you, and you alone, choose when and where he is released.

Extra care should be taken when wearing a bra locked with a padlock in public so as to avoid its prominent bulge from becoming visible.

Advantages

  • Psychologically intimidating

Disadvantages

  • Bulky padlock is harder to hide under clothing

Figure 5.5: Around the house, even a lock that is more symbolic than secure may be used, such as this heart shaped padlock intended to protect a girl's secrets.

Although we have been looking at ways of securing a bra in your absence, there is no reason why such methods cannot be used around the house as well, in order to emphasise your husband's bra discipline and reinforce the fact that he must not remove his bra without your express permission. Under your watchful eye, there is less need for absolute security, and thus a more symbolic approach may be taken, as is the case with the cute little silver heart pictured in Figure 5.5. Such a lock would not be out of place on a girl's secret diary or jewellery box, and as such is ideal for securing the most feminine of garments.

Reducing elasticity

For reasons of comfort, the band of a brassière has a certain amount of stretch to it. Although some bras are relatively rigid, many are elastic enough to allow them to be removed without ever having to be unclasped, by sliding them down the chest, stretching them over the hips and dropping them down the legs before stepping out of them as one would a pair of knickers. With a little effort, it is possible to reverse this procedure, running the risk that your husband may still be able to remove his brassière without you knowing. It is imperative that he must not be able to act in such a manner. One approach to this problem is simply to choose bras that are sufficiently tight to prevent your husband from removing them in this way, but prolonged wearing of an excessively tight brassière is not only unpleasantly uncomfortable, but may also result in unwelcome medical conditions such as trapped nerves. It is beneficial, therefore, to find an alternative way to reduce a bra's elasticity.

Figure 5.6: The elasticity of the band of this bra has been reduced by sewing a length of strong thread along its edge, stopping the wearer from slipping out of it.

The easiest way to reduce the elasticity of the band is simply to sew a length of reasonably strong, inelastic thread along the edge of it, as illustrated in Figure 5.6. A little trial and error is necessary in order to judge the correct length of thread required, being short enough to prevent the bra from being stretched excessively, yet long enough to avoid the thread digging painfully into your husband's chest. For the latter reason, it is preferable to retain a degree of elasticity, making the procedure slightly less straightforward than might be imagined. Care should also be taken to secure the ends of the thread to sturdy parts of the brassière that are unlikely to rip or tear when pulled. With an underwired brassière, the cups are sufficiently inelastic that one need only sew along the back of the bra, allowing the thread to be secured close to the underwiring on each side.

For clarity, the bra shown in Figure 5.6 uses a contrasting thread, but in practice, there is no reason why the thread should be so visible. Indeed, many brassières have a small hem along the bottom edge, inside which the thread may be passed so as to hide it completely. Apart from the contrasting colour of the thread, it is difficult to tell that the bra has been so modified when it is being worn. It is only if my brassièred husband attempts to slide it over his hips that he will discover the difference, and resign himself to remaining brassièred until I see fit to unlock him!

Figure 5.7: A length of ribbon has been used to reduce the elasticity of this brassière, making it more comfortable to wear than one secured with thread.

Along similar lines, ribbon may be used in place of thread. This has a number of advantages, not least that it is wider and thus less uncomfortable even when taut. The additional strength of the ribbon means that it is impossible for it to be broken accidentally, but it is still necessary to judge the length used correctly, as well as making sure that one attaches it securely to a sturdy part of the brassière. With a little care, however, one can use the same length of ribbon in order to provide the loops for the lock as well as reducing elasticity, making this quite an efficient means of ensuring your husband remains where he belongs, namely, inside his bra. Figure 5.7 illustrates this in practice.

Advantages

  • Impossible to slip out of brassière

Disadvantages

  • Uncomfortable to wear for long periods of time

  • Difficult to judge length of ribbon or thread required

It is also worth mentioning here that should the elasticity of the straps of a brassière prove to be problematic, it may be reduced using similar methods. However, it is often sufficient just to sew the bra strap to itself in the vicinity of the strap adjusters, preventing your husband from changing the length of the straps as a prelude to slipping them down his shoulders.

Using a collar

Figure 5.8: This brassière is fastened to a padlocked collar, making it impossible to remove even if my husband somehow manages to slip out of its band.

Another approach to preventing your husband from taking off his brassière is to attach it to something else that cannot be removed without your permission. In Figure 5.8, two additional bra straps have been used, one to form a collar around my brassièred husband's neck, secured with a padlock, the other to attach this collar to the band of the bra, which has been secured with a second padlock as outlined earlier. Such an arrangement allows a much more comfortable, looser bra to be worn. If my husband were able to slip out of the band of the brassière, he would still find himself faced with a bra dangling around his neck, secured to a locked collar that cannot be removed without the key. Put in such a situation, most men soon resign themselves to wearing their bra like they should, where at least it can be hidden under clothing.

Obviously, it is important to ensure that the collar cannot be stretched over the head and removed, which should not be a problem provided it fits snugly around the neck. Some care should also be taken to ensure the collar does not become visible. Fortunately, a shirt and tie or a polo-necked jumper should be sufficient in this respect, allowing your husband to wear such a brassière to work without a problems. Around the house, where there is less need to keep things hidden, a tight-fitting T-shirt will display your husband's predicament quite nicely, doing nothing to hide either the collar or the outline of the straps.

Figure 5.9: An alternative approach is to use ribbon and numbered seals, which are just as secure as padlocks and straps but easier to hide under clothing.

Using matching bra straps is an aesthetically pleasing solution, as well as allowing easy adjustment, but such straps can be difficult to come by, and the additional bumps caused by them, not to mention the two padlocks, can be problematic under lighter clothing. As an alternative, two lengths of ribbon may be used instead, held in place by numbered seals, resulting in a much less pronounced effect under clothing. A little care should be taken when making the lengths of ribbon to ensure they are long enough to allow the bra to sit in its usual place, but short enough to avoid excessive slack, as shown in Figure 5.9.

Advantages

  • Allows a looser, more comfortable bra to be worn

Disadvantages

  • Can only be hidden underneath a collar and tie

It is worth noting in passing that a collar is not the only thing to which a brassière may be secured. If your husband has nipple piercings, or wears a male chastity device, these may also be used to help keep him brassièred if he is unable to remove them without your assistance.

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